sorry this is a bit long! i work as a barmaid in a hotel, part of the job is to host parties and functions,i set up the bar, make sure everything is ready forthe guests.this involves heavy lifting(creats of drinks ect)and cleaning up at end of night! last week i did the birthday party of an 80yr old lady. this was arranged by her daughter. the "party" involved a three course dinner and drinks , no music but it was lovely all the same. the daughter had requested that almanac brandy be served for her father and elder brother for "after dinner liqures" and had phoned the day before and was assured by management that indeed the hotel stocked the brandy.when the night came low and behold, NO almanac! by this time im getting at the management! how ever the disapointed guests were lovely about it and told me not to worry! at the end of the night i got the coats from the cloakroom(not strickly my job but did it anyway as , cloakroom attendents and waitresses are always sent home by 10pm.helped thebithday girl and her very elderly husband on with their coats and thanked them for being such lovely guests.their daughter had asked me about paying the bill for the night,and as usual i directed her to one of the managers(#3).she said to me she wanted to settle and leave a tip for the staff.fair enough- everyone invoved in the night worked hard, there was two chefs, two waitresses and me- barmaid. the daughter spoke to manager and handed him a wedge of notes, i assumed it was payment of the bill(free bar all night, so must have been a lot. asthe guests were leaving, the daughter took me aside and gave me £10 and said "thats fo your hard work, my mum enjoyed herself, thanks" i was also tiped £10 and £5 from two gentlemen in the party, again with regards to the service i'd given. the guests left and i cleared the room. this involves cleaning up the mess, washing the glasses ect, removing and emptying the bins,taking the table clothes napkins ect to the laundry, stacking the chairs moving tables ect. locked the bar up and then i went to reception to clock out- its after 12:30 pm by then. manager #3 is there i mentioned i recieved £25 in tips to him .then i went home.DH came to pick me up, so i didnt have to wait for a taxi!. the hotel didnt cover breaks for me so i worked from 6pm to 12:30pm , they stoped staff meals and taxis home and dont give lifts even though the owner of the hotel as provided a car for this purpose, (i know because my mate is his niece).the hotel manager #1 uses i as his "company car" instead.so i goes back to work on thursday as usual , im in the public bar , and do the shift and go to head home at the end of the night. firstly im told that my till is out by £15, ok i stand and argue with them that its not and to re-check. so office staff re-checks in front of me and i point out she hasnt checked for company charges( we send them to a pre-arranged table number and post the bills at end of the night). so thats been found and my till is proven to be ok!. then the #2 manager pulls me up about recieving a £25 tip , and says that the daughter(from the party) came in the next day to pay her bill, and said she hopes i shared the tip with the other staff! WTF! manager #2 also says that its notthe point that i got given tips ,its that i kept them to myself, and manager #1 isnt pleased with my behaviour!i told him no-one said i was to share the tips and i got £10 from the daughter,£10 from one man and £5 from another, IF the bill was payed the next day, wat was the money that was handed to manager #1 ? if the woman had said to me the £10 she gave me was to be split with the staff, it would have been, but why bring up the other tips i recieved from the two men? Am i being unreasonable to think somethings not quite rght with all this? and what should i do about it? .im thinking i should split the £10 from the woman with the two waitresses, just to be nice to them, not becuse i have too.