to think that I am being dumped?

[gingernutlover]

i have a friend who I have known for around 15 years who is basically ignoring me. We dont see each other lots now we are older, I have kids, she doesnt, I am married she is not

we generally meet up for a chat every couple of months or so and have dinner or go to the cinema

we last met up in nov and agreed we would go xmas shopping, anyway she seemed to be very "busy" and unable to name a date so I said, fine, lets go sales shopping instead.

Her mum came to visit from overseas and ended up spending a lot longer here than was planned which I understand but she is basically ignoring me now, texts, facebook etc. I know from her facebook she has been seeing other friends lately so I cant understand why she is ignoring me

I think she is trying to cut me out of her life, which if this is the case, then its her loss I guess but I feel pissed off with her uncaring attitude, we have been friends a long time and have been through tough times in the past helping each others etc

I hav had depression since my dd was bron, 3.5 years a go and all I can think is that I have turned into such an uninteresting miserable old cow that she is basically dumping me

I have tried phoning her but I guess she is either out or screening her calls, and doesnt return my messages

I feel quite angry towards her and am left wondering why she is treating me like this, I may not be the same person I was at 13 but I am certainly not completely changed

I have had a similar situation with an old friend of late and I have been upset about it but have left it after a few texts and fb messages were ignored. I recently met up with a mutual friend who told me this friend is going through a terrible depression and has lost her job.

I only relate this because I was looking at the whole thing from my perspective and it opened my eyes and reassured me. I then remembered we almost met up at christmas and something else came up for her. I feel awful that I was worrying about myself and all the while she was/is going through a really tough patch. She too felt able to meet up with others, which is hard I know, but whatever the reason I have no doubt that at some point we will pick up where we left off. It's just the way sometimes.

Don't worry too much, just give it time

thanks nancysgarden

that has helped me put things in perspective. Her mum coming over for ages and then going back again will be makign her down I know. I will leave her to her own devices and see what happens, or doesn't

had a lovely day with a friend today who told me i look like i've lost wieght pmsl, think she needs her eyes testing again somehow as I've been piggin out in the cold weather LOL.

Cheers for all your thoughts guys, has helped me see it from lots of different angles.