to expect ex-DH to know his LO's date of birth??

[gingertoo]

Ex-DH has just sent me a text asking me to send him DS1 and DS2 dates of birth!!??

He should, I agree. However my dh has to think very, very hard to get birthdates right for dds or me, and my Dad has to be reminded as well. The year I didn't remind him, he forgot my brother altogether (mum and dad divorced so mum didn't remind him either, obviously.)

I would be cross if I were you though. I don't really get cross with dh, but if it was ex-dh then I think that would make it worse (although not absolutely sure why, really).

(re-read that - I don't have an ex-dh, it was hypothetical...)

Just being devil's advocate - he may want you to text dates so he can save them direct into phone (eg he can't work out how to put them in from scratch)?

lol ZoeC - I know what you mean!
I suppose I am a little more harsh because it's the ex.
I'm also wondering why he's asking - birthdays are not til end of year so he's not off to buy presents.......

my Dh is terrible with dates! he has been known to forget his own birthday when asked... he now has the DC's dates as a barcode tattoo. he has no excuse now

My DH never remembers anyone's birthdays. He could probably tell you the dates, if pushed, but would be unsure.

As Zoe says, if it was an ex, I would be livid though... DH can get away with it as he is otherwise in the good books (for now!).

I think my dh largely gets away with it as I do all the shopping for birthdays and just present him with the bill now and again!

I have got terrible double standards .... My lovely new DH would get away with far worse!!!

pmsl

My DH asks dd's birth dates and then when told ask's if i'm sure . Like it's something i'd forget.

My husband is in the Navy so has missed all the kids birthdays inc Ds1 actually being born (ds1 will be 4 in march and ds2 is 2).

He emailed me last week to see if I wanted to go out with a group of friends 'on the last day of the six nations' in Cardiff if his mum would have the boys overnight. I googled it to find the date, it's on ds1's birthday. I emailed back 'nice idea but it's on the 21st march...' he then got back to me and said 'ok, let's book a hotel' missing the whole point that it was ds1's birthday as he obviously had not the faintest idea of why that date might be significant even when I rang him he took ages to work it out.

So YANBU to expect a childs parent to know their birthday but sadly it seems not to be unusual. I'm still happily married to my idiot as well!

agree he should know the dates, but is ot the year he is confused by, I know its taken 3 years for me to know dd's year of birth automatically

lol lizziemum! My ExMIL is exactly the same. She sends my middle DS's card / present a day early and always asks me if I'm sure when I tell her that his birthday is the next day........

Found out why he wanted to know their dates, by the way.... ExDH new wife is pg!! She needed to tell midwife about DH previous children - wonder if he'll remember that LO's birthday! lol

DH cannot recall the dates of my birthday, DS's birthday or DD's birthday. He knows the month because me, DS and DD were all born in the same month! Oh, he also doesn't know when we got married. Not the date or how many years ago.

He does not know the dates of his mother's birthday, his father's birthday or his brother's birthday. Again he could remember the months for them, so I ended up sending stuff at the beginning of the month so that it would be there before the birthday, whenever it came. Recently, I just said straight out to MIL, look, DH doesn't know when any of your birthdays are, I've been guessing them, can you please tell me the dates and I will write them down and remember them. She thought it was funny!

crokky you aren't married to my DH are you? Mine doesn't have a clue, even though 2 of the boys were born on the same day and the third a week later.

I know the dates and years but can't remember how old anyone is (including me)

well catweazle my DH can remember how old HE is and since I am the same age, that's how he manages to remember how old I am

No yanbu but dh joined a gym a few months ago and the dd's get free membership (for swimming, gymnastics etc not to actually work out ) he got dd2 dob exactly right but put dd1 date as her due date (she was due 11th born on 7th) got the month right and made her a whole year younger than she was (the lady who processed the application phoned me to check as she had seen the dd's and thought dd1 was older than 3!!)