To tell DH this morning "I already have two children to look after - one to get to school and one who is really ill and crying. I can't look after you as well"

[Cloudspotter]

He was faffing about looking for a hairbrush and hassling me for it. I was trying to get dd1 dressed for school (already late) and deal with dd2 with a temperature of 100, and somehow work out how to get dd1 to school with a very sick and crying dd2.

Shall I will buy him his own hairbrush for Valentine's Day, just to reinforce the message, or let it lie?

let it lie
life's too short! am sure you made your point.

YABU, you are a mother and part of a mothers duties are to know the location of all random pieces of stuff that anyone else in the house can't be bothered to look for.

Buy one and spank him with it.

Didnt you use your Psychic - mummy radar? If you dont have one, you should get your DH to buy one for Valentines. Mine is a godsend!

Libras. That is exactly my point. Why am I in charge of finding everything that is lost in the house?

I don't mind being asked nicely if I know where something is, but I don't like being harrassed for it, as if I have obviously moved it somewhere out of sight.

My eyes are rolling at myself now, but why should mums always be expected to do these things?

and this is why I am so thankful that my DH is bald, so he cannot hassle me for things like this.

of course, it doesn;t stop him not being able to find anything else!!

Ladies - do your dhs also totally lack the ability to see something even when you've told them exactly where it is? I've lost count of the number of times dh has asked me where something is, I've consulted my psychic-mummy radar and told him, and he's come back in a strop because 'it's not there!!' - and then I've gone and put my hand on it immediately, just where I said it was.

The boys are as bad or worse. I could send them to find an elephant in the front room, and it could be right in the middle of the floor, with a huge neon arrow pointing to it and a sign saying, 'Here Is The Elephant', and they'd still not be able to find it!!

I was that child. Me' Mum where's the ketchup?' Mum 'in the cupboard' No, it's not' Mum, Mum Mum about 6-7 times. Mum comes into the kitchen cross. Opens the cupboard and shouts 'THERE' ladies How did she do that? It really wasn't there when I looked. She moved one other bottle and THERE it was.
HOW do mum do that? I have never forgotten that moment.

dd was looking for something yesterday, dh said "what are you looking for" her reply "you won't be able to find it anyway, i'll ask mum"
fast learner. she is 4.

It is, because as all men know, the uterus is actually a homing device.

It's genetic - neither DH nor DS1 can never find anything. They wouldn't see your elephant Stayingsunnygirl. I do wonder sometimes if DS1 would even find the room!

DS2 though able to find things with minimal instructions. I am wondering if he is some freak of nature - a male who can find things.

Cloudspotter - it is the continual assumption that I have moved everything just to make life difficult that is annoying. Usually things are exactly where they left them.

Buy your DH is own hairbrush and hang it on a little hook next to the bed. No excuses then.

Oh! I think I left mine on the bus!

I often tell DH the same thing. It is really really irritating.

Dd1 takes pity on him and helps him most of the time.

He doesn't seem ashamed that a five year old is often more capable than him. Infact he tries to balme her by saying things like "Well she only knew it was there because she moved it. I have told her not to play with my work pass" No darling, she looked for it with her eyes instead of standing in the middle of the room whining and expecting it to jump out and shout her.

I bought two packs of hairbrishes from the cash and carry. We have 8 hairbrushes in various neon shades in an average size family home. The only one left is the one I keep in my bag.

Dh is a SAHD.

I always ask him where I have left things/ where things are.

He spends more time in the house than me...

When my ds cant find something i always say if it was any nearer it would bite him on the bum!!

In answer to panic-stricken queries about the whereabouts of anything that is their responsibility, I always just say 'I don't know darling' in a vague voice..

They do get the message in the end

YANBU - I think all men do this. My Dad certainly does, and I've married a man who can't find anything either.

What drives me the most bonkers though is that DH (and my Dad) won't pick up anything to look underneath it. If something is meant to be in a drawer or cupboard, unless it leaps out and bites them on the nose then it isn't there. And it's never them which hasn't put something back where it lives. [ranty emoticon]