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to leave a note on next door neighbours car

24 replies

astragirl · 11/02/2009 11:42

....it's blocking my drive and I wanted to use my car this afternoon to take my ds to the park and go shopping, but will find it really hard to get out of my driveway. I was thinking of placing a note on the window screen to politely ask them not to block my driveway again. He's only just moved in so I don't know him well. Do you think i am being unreasonable by putting up a notice or should I just drive out and mash up his car as I drive out?!!!!

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BCNS · 11/02/2009 11:44

I'd just go and ask him if he could shift the car a bit so you can get out.. lots of smiles and thank yous LOL

KingCanuteIAm · 11/02/2009 11:45

Could you leave a note saying you need to be out this afternoon so could he please ensure the drive is clear for then. Then see how often it happens - you can always re-visit the mashing

Songbird · 11/02/2009 11:46

Is he in? The easiest thing would be to knocjk on the door. You've no idea if he'd see a note in time.

Songbird · 11/02/2009 11:47

knocjk - Polish for knock!

kitbit · 11/02/2009 11:50

If he's a new neighbour I'd definitely knock. Leaving a note can come across as a bit snippy and unwelcoming. If he's an arse about it, then leave a note, or get mashing

mayorquimby · 11/02/2009 12:06

knock in, it's much more friendly a note would seem a bit snippy to me.
is it completely across your drive in a bit of a ignorant way.
or is it just the back/front coming across it in a way that looks like he tried not to block your driveway and probably tought he left enough room for you.
chances are if its the second he'll be apologetic and it's an honest mistake in that he thought he'd left enough room for you to get out

dilemma456 · 11/02/2009 14:17

Message withdrawn

Timeisablindguide · 11/02/2009 14:18

Yes, I'm also in favour of knocking at the door.

VinegarTits · 11/02/2009 14:20

Just knock and ask him to move it, if you leave a note he will think you are weird/unsociable/snobby

MrsSeanBean · 11/02/2009 14:26

Putting up a note will look a bit weird IMO. I would ask him to move it. Unless he is especially dense there should be no need to ask him 'not to do it again'.

lilstarry1 · 11/02/2009 14:41

No note!! I received one of those notes and it drove me mad!

You know where he lives - so knock on his door! It's much more personably and sociable. A note is actually quite rude and can seem aggressive, especially if it's not signed etc.

If you want him to not do it again and to actually like you enough to respect you, go and see him! Honestly, notes are never a good idea no matter how well intended.

jack99 · 11/02/2009 14:48

Yes, knock on the door. If not in now, go round later and tell him about the problem.

Talking face to face (when you can smile as well!) is always best - avoids misunderstandings. He has only just moved in and may be around for a long time!

SweatyArseCrack · 11/02/2009 14:50

Put the windows through and slash the tires. Then next time you see him say "I left my car outside the driveway once and the same thing happened. How odd! perhaps it's not a safe place to park?"

That's what I'd do, if nothing else you'll scare the shit out of him.

compo · 11/02/2009 14:51

agree with all the others, knock on his door

crabbymum · 11/02/2009 14:53

yep another one who would knock, that way you can welcome him to the neighbourhood.

decaffeinated · 11/02/2009 16:39

Agree a knock on the door is best. Our neighbour left a note on our car, and I thought it was totally ridiculous that he didn't just come and knock and ask us to move. We would have had the car out of his way in about a minute or so!

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astragirl · 11/02/2009 19:50

Thanks everyone. I didn't do what "Sweatarsecrack" (yuk!!) suggested, but did go round and ask politely. He didn't apologise but did move it so I could get out but put it back once I'd driven off. I came back 2 hours later and he'd moved it past our drive.....tosser

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Fizzylemonade · 11/02/2009 21:34

I do the girlie "well I am really not a great judge of distance and I would hate to hit your car, I have had lots of accidents in the past where I misjudged how close I was"

For the record I usually deplore this type of behaviour but it should do the trick, the last thing he would want is for you to hit his car.

Ripeberry · 11/02/2009 22:16

If you have a dropped kerb to your driveway then he is breaking the law by blocking you in! Call the police.
But then he might start blocking you OUT and the police can't do anything
But do knock on his door first!

callmeovercautious · 11/02/2009 22:22

Someone once blocked us and 11 other houses in. We had a long shared back access. I was the first to try and leave but after an hour there was a screaming mob of people

We ended up calling the police who got it towed.
Never happened again.

In our work car park we forklift cars out of the way if they block others in

Sheeta · 12/02/2009 12:49

Same thing happened to us - new neighbour parked halfway across our drive. We went straight out and just very politely asked him to move it. Lots of pleases and thankyous, and lots of 'i'm-very-sorry's' from him too

Divineintervention · 12/02/2009 12:52

I would go round again and nicely tell him that you bought your house as it had a drive and you're always needing access so to save both of you the hassle of knocking and moving the car could he not park infornt of your fucking drive.

Divineintervention · 12/02/2009 12:53

in front

DesperateHousewifeToo · 12/02/2009 13:00

Yes, I think the more you make it a hassle for him whenever he blocks your drive i.e. by making him come out and move his car, the more quickley he'll stop doing it. I'd even just drive around the block to make him move it and then do it again 15mins later

It happens all the time to us and it drives me NUTS

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