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to tell this boy he can't come to the party

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Katiestar · 10/02/2009 18:08

Ds is having a party at half term.he has invited 13 friends and it is £16 each + cost of party tea.I put on the invitations RSVP ASAP.Most people responded immediately .Last weekend there was only one boy who hadn't replied.I saw him and his Dad over the weekend and said i needed a reply by Sunday night at teh latest as I had to give final numbers.His Dad said he would ask the boy's mum (they are divorced) to ring me that day.By Monday evening I hadn't heard anything so i assumed he wasn't coming.Today Tuesday at school he told my DS he IS coming.
So what do I do ? Ring up the venue and see if they can accommodate an extra child but I don't want to lose £10 deposit if he doesn't show ?

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mm22bys · 10/02/2009 18:11

You need to check with the venue, they may be OK with it. Any body who gave you the RSVP in time could still not show.

Only if the venue says no should you tell this boy that he can't come.

scrooged · 10/02/2009 18:14

I think you should let him go, it's not his fault his parents are disorganised. If he doesn't show then this is down to his parents.

LynetteScavo · 10/02/2009 18:21

He is going to turn up, so you should pay.

His dad sounds like my DH.

kslatts · 10/02/2009 18:26

I think it would be unfair to say he couldn't come as it isn't the child's fault.

It does really annoy me when people reply really late or worse don't reply, so yanbu about being annoyed.

kslatts · 10/02/2009 18:26

I think it would be unfair to say he couldn't come as it isn't the child's fault.

It does really annoy me when people reply really late or worse don't reply, so yanbu about being annoyed.

clam · 10/02/2009 18:26

Have you got the balls to call his mother and say you're unsure of what's happening, and that you've cancelled due to her not calling.
I ought to explain that I wouldn't have the nerve, but would wish I did!

kslatts · 10/02/2009 18:26

I think it would be unfair to say he couldn't come as it isn't the child's fault.

It does really annoy me when people reply really late or worse don't reply, so yanbu about being annoyed.

cornsilk · 10/02/2009 18:27

Let him go.

KerryMumbles · 10/02/2009 18:42

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twinsetandpearls · 10/02/2009 18:45

Let him go.

Janos · 10/02/2009 18:45

YANBU to be annoyed at all, don't blame you, but please don't stop the child coming.

There may be something odd going on between the parents and x is not telling y something (of course they may just be disorganised!) It would a shame if the boy couldn't come because of that.

These places are usually good at accomodating one extra.

chipsandtart · 10/02/2009 19:46

16 pound per head wow thats alot, where is he having the party

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