To think I should have got a phone call to let me know DS1 couldn't get his little brother from school.

[shinyshoes]

Just a rant really.
DS1 is getting a bit 'kevin' lately at school, attitude, little man syndrome etc, etc, this has given im a few detentions at school including today.

Now DS1 was told, by me, he had to get his brother from school, baby isnt well, and I really dont want to be dragging her out especially in this weather when it hasn't stopped raining all day.

I phoned DS1 10 mins after school had finished to remind him to stop off on his way home and pick up his brother. He informs me he is in detention. I asked him if the teacher was there and to put her on the phone (he got a telling off for using his phone in detention, and rightly so, but at the time I didnt know he was in detention.)

I explained that I would have liked a phone call just to say DS1 is in detention therefore is unable to get to the DS2 school on time please make other arrangemnts ot have him picked up.

All I got was 'his attitude this his attitude that, he has to have detention yadda yadda yadda,' her tone was quite aggresive and loud, obviously she's pissed off as she now has to sit there with my hormanal son that believes his 'tude is fine, it's her' roll eyes emotiocon

I told her its not the detention thats the problem it's the fact that I wasnt informed, now I'm going to have to wake the baby from her bed, put her in the pram and walk in the rain to get DS2. Like I said other arrangements could have been made for someone else to either sit with the baby or collect DS2 .

She tells me we dont have to inform parents if the detention is under 20 mins (this is true) oh and by the way he has one tomorrow as well for not doing homework.

She didnt seem to understand that it wasnt the detention I had a problem with its the failing to let me know if he has told her he needed to pick up his brother.

rant over

YABU.Your Ds should have phoned you. Also I don't think an 11 year old should be picking up younger siblings.
All the primary schools around here do not let under 16's pick up other children. It has to be a known adult.

YABU
You gave permission for same-day detentions,you know he regularly gets them and STILL entrusted him to pick his younger sibling up.
MY DS who is 10 brings home his 6 yr old sister but we only live about 300 yds from school and they are both sensible

As a teacher I must say that 90% of kids claim they have to be elsewhere. I wouldn't expect a year 7 to have responsibility for picking up a younger sibling to be honest, and would probably assume it was a lie.

Blimey how times have changed. I used to walk home (or to CM's) from the age of 9, with little brother (4 years younger) in tow. Hated having to wait for him as he was so damn slow... but had to all the same and my parents were considered part of the 'over protective' lot! Most of my friends were latch key kids while we had to go to CM's!!

Shinyshoes you seem quite chilled out about the amount of detentions your son is getting? My parents would have killed me been annoyed and dissapointed if they knew about the ones I fairly frequently occasionally received (usually 4 zillion lines - I will NOT talk in class!). Luckily we were allowed to do at lunchtime, together, while talking (PMSL)... - so really not effective!! .