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To expect DP to tell his kids off?

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BBQ · 09/02/2009 15:48

My DP has 2 children and in a morning they come diving on our bed. Jumping up and down, screaming and shouting. I have been hurt in the process more than once but DP just laughs at them.

I'm not trying to be grumpy but is it a lot to ask for them to stop doing that?

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Lulumama · 09/02/2009 15:50

why can;t you tell them off? if they are in your home, then surely you are entitled to discipline appropriately?

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BBQ · 09/02/2009 15:51

Its his home.

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KerryMumbles · 09/02/2009 15:51

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flubdub · 09/02/2009 15:52

KM - are you kerrymum?

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 09/02/2009 15:52

Get up before the children.

flubdub · 09/02/2009 15:53

BTW - OP, how old are they?

flubdub · 09/02/2009 15:53

oldlady!!

KnickKnack · 09/02/2009 15:55

Can you not tell them off/explain to them why not to do it? or ask him to?

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BBQ · 09/02/2009 15:55

KM what's for?

They do it really early, about 6am.

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anniemac · 09/02/2009 15:56

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cikecaka · 09/02/2009 15:57

Have you children of your own BBQ?

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BBQ · 09/02/2009 15:59

Yes mine don't do this and they're younger than DP's kids. My eldest is only 11.

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cikecaka · 09/02/2009 16:02

How old are his kids then

anniemac · 09/02/2009 16:03

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 09/02/2009 16:05

If they are older than 11 they are old enough to know not to do this.

If they are older than say 7, they are old enough to know not to do this. Do you think they feel intimidated by you being there and are deliberately trying to upset you?

KerryMumbles · 09/02/2009 16:06

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KnickKnack · 09/02/2009 16:30

I don't think teenagers jumping up and down on your bed and screaming and shouting at 6am is acceptable behaviour.
You need to talk to your DH as he obviously differs in opinion to you. Best to clear the air before its blown out of proportion though.

KerryMumbles · 09/02/2009 16:53

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madwomanintheattic · 09/02/2009 17:03

over 11 yos bounce on your bed at 6am?

have they not to got to that point where you have to lever them out of their pits at lunchtime then?

boarding school.

or get up at 5 and go and bounce on their beds.

is this perfectly normal behaviour in dps' household then? a long-standing family tradition for the last ten years? maybe you just need to buy them those nice bunny clocks and explain slowly that they mustn't disturb you until 7...

other people's families are always a bit odd lol, but i suppose you could (in the worst case) turn it round and hope that it meant they have accepted you into their family traditions and you were playing a full part in family life.

you just need to convince them that you'd rather do it after 7...

tiredsville · 09/02/2009 17:09

YANBU When it's your own kids you can just say 'get off the bleedin bed you little urchins.'
But when the kids are not yours, you feel more pressured to grin and bare it.
Sorry, but over the age of 11 my feet will be flinging them off the bed.

Surfermum · 09/02/2009 17:09

If dsd did this I wouldn't expect dh to tell her off, I'd be having lots to say about it myself. But I am VERY grumpy in the mornings .

I don't see what difference it makes whether it's his home or not, or whether he thinks it's OK or not. If you don't want them to do it speak to them yourself. Why do you feel you can't?

cheshirekitty · 09/02/2009 17:12

Put a lock on your bedroom door. Problem solved.

YANBU.

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cornsilk · 09/02/2009 17:17

How old are they then - boys or girls? I only want to know out of nosiness. I would lock them out.

tiredsville · 09/02/2009 17:18

Is it that you don't want to be the baddie BQ? I had this dilemma.

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