to find the Guardian article "The Dummy Mummy Decade" offensive?

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See here. Then again, perhaps I should be polishing my bugaboo rather than reading the Guardian...

I don't really have a bugaboo, unfortunately...

I started off feeling offended, then decided that it was so blatantly provocative-on-purpose that I couldn't be arsed. Instead I rang my childless friends and talked about my children a lot .

So. If you are stupid enough to have children, make sure they don't matter to you and you don't talk about them in front of normal people? Ok.

Just seems a bit weird to be so against mothers droning on about your offspring, when you are a columnist who gets paid to drone on about your own feelings about things to the world. I find most columnists weird anyway. Why the assumption that we're interested? The words Pot-Kettle spring to mind.

silly bint

Not you PP.

I remember before Nigella Lawson had babies, she wrote for vogue. She was almost as scathing about women with children. [hmmm]

Those writers are just appalling appalling peopel.Polly Vernon is so creepy.

I'm afraid I agreed with her.

So balanced and well informed.... and clearly such a broad circle of friends....

methinks the lady doth protest too much

Ugh, god save us from all these smug media commentators who think they are relaying some revelatory truth, instead of their own not very interesting opinions.

In life there are
a) people who are boring =once they have children, they will bore you about their children
b) interesting people=who stay interesting once they have children

Daft cow=silly article

Protesting too much, methinks.

I agreed with Rachel Cooke, a bit less with Vernon. I think it must be HELL to be a childless woman (either thru choice or not) in such a kid-obsessed age.

Some mothers can be very very boring

Please can the writer of that article go and have her personal crisis about nearly being 40 all over somebody else.

Either that or this is the first generation of women to prioritise their children above their childfree friends, and thus deserves media scrutiny.

LOL. YANBU.

I work with two childless women. Their conversations are so intelligent and worldlywise - not!
All they talk about is how drunk they got at the weekend.

either you are dull dull dull and have nothing other than living your life as a by product of your children, their equipment and their bowel habits or you are a person with a range ofinterests and abilities, lke me.

was a bit boring after the first few lines.

ah. i think darrel just said that

Full of self-importance isn´t she.. Anything SHE is interested in is of intrinsic value, anything a mother might have an interest in of no interest or value whatsoever. Oh, she NEVER comes across a boring and selfish does she?! Definitely not funny or clever either!

Somebody wasn´t impressed that she had been to Yemen?! Shocking! Well get a grip woman, when you live abroad in exciting places for years on end NONE of your acquaintances at home asks you about it. Fact! You are nothing special.

Log on to mumsnet and people talk about mothering. What a surprise, how tedious, what does she think this is the forum for ?!

My overall impression is that she has serious issues with NOT becoming a mother? She wasn´t brave enough to take the step and has a go at those who do. Isn´t what of the first rules of writing to WRITE ABOUT YOUR OWN EXPERIENCES.. Back down lady!

I currently hate mothers who drone on about how gifted and talented they and their offspring are.
Look about lady, there are a hell a lot of us around, we don't just blether on about it all day

Great minds DA

And so can some women without children, TDW. And so can some men (with or without children)

I think you'll find that those people who bore you about their kids, well, they'd bore you about something, because that's what they're like.

The biggest bore I knew was a young woman who was single, had no kids and went clubbing all the time. On and on and bloody on about clubs, and clubbing and drinking and what she'd done while drinking and clubs and clubbing.

deathly dull.

IF she'd had a child, she'd probably have droned on nonstop about that instead.

Some people are dull. That's not because they have reproduced. It's just because they are boring.

I'm surprised its in the grundian to be honest, given its readership , so can only conclude she's being deliberately stupid and controversial - but yep' I'm with you. Very offensive and deeply sad as it seems to be doing that wonderful 'women with different experiences must slag each other off - its the law' thing. I think what she forgets is that all kinds of people can become 'too obsessed' with whatever their subject of choice is - be it their job, thier car, their latet trip to The Yemen.....and yes some women can go on a bit about their babies, but hell, at least we can go on about real life bundles of joy.....Ultimately, I think she is trying to criticise rude people who do not have the social skills or manners to ask about her and her life - which would be fair enough - but by just attacking Mums she's actually showing how narrow minded, ignorant and rude she herself is.
And I want to cheer myself up by thinking that her 'friends' may also get fed up of the smug, truly selfih 'ME...ME...ME' ness of her attitudes.

In fact, is she 2?? Then it all makes sense!..

I have a degree, a professional career, a fabulous husband and a secure marriage. But the one thing I am most proud of is Mothrhood. My two beautiful boys fill my heart with unendung joy.
And if that makes me a Dummy Mummy then sobeit.

(Don't own a Bugaboo though - my life isn't that perfect)

Unending!!

Can't type with a baby under my arm!