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to want dh to shave more regularly ?

23 replies

Tillyscoutsmum · 07/02/2009 10:20

I prefer clean shaven men. I'm not keen on the look or feel of bristles. DH used to shave every day but since he has not needed to for work, he seems to be doing it less and less regularly (sometimes less than once a week).

I genuinely don't know whether I'm being unreasonable or not (but am preparing myself to be told in no uncertain terms ). Its his face and I can appreciate that shaving every day must be a PITA but I have told him, albeit in a jokey way, that I don't like it very much. It just makes me think he can't be arsed to make an effort

AIBU ?

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muddleduck · 07/02/2009 10:26

Totally depends on what your response would be if he told you to change something about your appearace.

elmoandella · 07/02/2009 10:26

do you keep you legs and armpits in a consant state of shavenness?

CharleeheartsherChains · 07/02/2009 10:28

I tell DP i can't kiss him (snog not just a peck) all the times he has a bristles! It feels horrible!

2pt4kids · 07/02/2009 10:28

DH shaves as litte as he can get away with for work because when he does shave it really irritates his skin and feels quite uncomfortable.
Is your DH not shaving through laziness or through comfort?

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Tillyscoutsmum · 07/02/2009 10:30

elmo - Pretty much - I'm quite lucky that I'm not very hairy so a quick swipe with a razor once a week keeps things in check for me

muddle - I think if I changed my appearance and he said he perred me the old way, I wouldn't have a problem.

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HeadFairy · 07/02/2009 10:30

Dh tells me that it's quite uncomfortable shaving for him so he loves the weekends when he lets it all grow out a bit. I quite like him with a bit of stubble but it doesn't 'arf scratch. He doesn't get much kissing at weekends I must admit. I think it is a teeny bit U to expect him to shave every single day, esp if he gets shaving rash or has even slightly sensitive skin. I know I could never shave under my arms every day as it would destroy the skin.

mrsmaidamess · 07/02/2009 10:30

Tell him. Tell him he looks soooo sexy when he is clean shaven.

FWIW I feel the same about my dh's haircut at the moment. It looks like a fright wig. Will he get it cut? Will he heck.

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Tillyscoutsmum · 07/02/2009 10:32

apols for typing - dd is "helping"

2pt - its laziness. He only really shaves when he does because the beard starts itching and he gets uncomfortable.

I think it pissed me off because he hadn't shaved for ages (despite my 'gentle" nagging ) and then shaved because he was going out with his mates.

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ilove · 07/02/2009 10:33

"AIBU to ask my wife to wear makeup every day? She has lost her job and used to wear it for work but now it is less than once a week. I must prefer her with it on...and have told her so!"

How would you feel if this is what he said to you?

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Tillyscoutsmum · 07/02/2009 10:35

Headfairy - he always used to have weekends off when he shaved regularly and I had no problem at all with that - I don't mind a day or two's growth occasionally but at the moment, its like living with farkin David Bellamy !

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Tillyscoutsmum · 07/02/2009 10:39

ilove - fair point

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HeadFairy · 07/02/2009 10:50

Do you mean full on beard? Hmmmm I'd be a bit about that, I'm not sure about beards to be honest. If it was just a bit of stubble because he's not working and doesn't have to I'd be a bit more ok about it.

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Tillyscoutsmum · 07/02/2009 12:23

It does grow quickly so if he leaves it 9-10 days (which he sometimes does), then it is pretty much a full on beard. He's not out of work btw, he's just started working for himself so he can chose whether to shave or not (whereas before he worked in quite a corporate office and it was a bit more of a no no).

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mayorquimby · 07/02/2009 12:55

yabu, and not shaving rocks

WEESLEEKITLauriefairycake · 07/02/2009 12:56

My dh has a goatee, he needs to trim it every week or I say:

"no kissing till its trimmed"

He trims within 2 minutes

laweaselmys · 07/02/2009 12:57

DP does this. I tell him when I like what he's done (sometimes he gets lazy and does a kind of mid-way shave! and ends up with something resembling a goatee) but generally speaking even though I don't like it I leave it alone.

I don't always shave my legs and I practically never bother to wear make up so really it would be taking the piss if I did!

I sympathise with your annoyance though.

CarGirl · 07/02/2009 12:58

no shaving = no snogging in this house because it really hurts, perhaps my dh has super prickly stubble???

RubyRioja · 07/02/2009 13:07

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Tillyscoutsmum · 07/02/2009 13:40

CarGirl - I reckon dh's is super prickly as well When he's messing around with dd before bath time (blowing raspberries on her tummy etc.) she always has a nasty rash...

I think I might just have to put up with it and either wait until the novelty wears off or he goes grey !

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CarGirl · 07/02/2009 13:42

well no snogging usually = no sex........I am usually very enthusiastic with snogging when he has shaved which does seem to work as positive reinforcement

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Tillyscoutsmum · 07/02/2009 13:57

I had considered withholding snogs/sez etc. but we're ttc atm so not really in my best interests Its definitely not as nice though

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namehelp · 07/02/2009 14:59

YABU how would you feel if he started making comment and suggesting how your cut and style your hair.

Tclanger · 07/02/2009 15:54

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