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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have had quite enough of this woman?

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muggglewump · 07/02/2009 00:31

Where do I start?
If anyone remembers, she's the same one that was funny about me getting her daughter's old bike at Christmas.
She asked two weeks ago how much I get in Tax Credits. Thinking I have nothing to hide i told her. Since then she's beem weird, she said that I make more than she does and she works full time.
It's true, I do but she has a husband and a full time wage awaiting her at home. She showed me her £2500 holiday. They (her and Husband) own a car and a house.
I asked if she had claimed benefits when she was left as a single parent./ She said yes but very little as she worked full time. I asked did she not get childcare money and she said no, she had her Mum!
I asked if she got rent money and she said no, she owned her flat which turned out to be a lie!
She did not own her flat and she worked full time as her Mum brought up her daughter for her whilst she met a man so she could have the life she now has.
She has forgotten that as her husband pays whilst she works full time and her Mum still has her daughter. The daughter has everything money can buy.

I'm just sick of people like this judging me, and being mean to me because I get benefits.

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queenofbeas · 07/02/2009 09:21

If you don't even like her, be blunt in response to her nosey questions.

CarGirl · 07/02/2009 09:30

She's a miserable so so who will never be happy with her lot in life!

Just remember you can take on a 2nd job to make up the 16 hours, take in some ironing or do cleaning self employed? Or Avon anything just to make your hours up to 16 (and I would suggest not telling her!)

HeadFairy · 07/02/2009 09:35

God this woman sounds a loon. I'd feed her a load of lies as she obviously does to you. People who constantly list everything they've done/bought are either very old (old ladies ALWAYS tell you the price of every single thing they've bought) or they are obssessed with money. If she's the latter I'd make up some outrageous lie like you've stopped getting any benefits because you won £10 million on the lottery but you love working there so much you've decided to carry on.

PigeonPair · 07/02/2009 10:14

She is obviously a freinemy (to use the Sex & the City term friend/enemy!)

Ashantai · 07/02/2009 11:15

I think you just need to be civil to her at work and dont talk about your personal stuff.
Imagine if she found out about your secret crush with Aden! you'd never hear the end of it

dittany · 07/02/2009 13:57

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Katiestar · 07/02/2009 14:54

I had some good advice once
Never tell anyone how much you earn.If you earn more they will be resentful.If you earn less they will look down on you.
I know tax credits are diffrent but I think the advice still applies.Just say you can,t remember off hand and change the subject

sorrento · 07/02/2009 14:59

Toxic cow, you do not need people like this dragging you down.
It is so true if you want to be happy surround yourself with happy people, misery loves it's own company.

tiredsville · 07/02/2009 15:23

YANBU
It's such an ugly trait being obsessed with what someone has, or has not.

LoveMyLapTop · 07/02/2009 15:34

Everyone knows it is vulgar to talk about money.
Your coleague is obv very common and I think you are morally obliged to tell her that!

Idrankthechristmasspirits · 07/02/2009 15:37

YABU. You both sound as bad as each other.

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muggglewump · 07/02/2009 16:30

Oh I know I can say judgey things about her and be quite rude but I think it/type it on here not actually say it to her.
It's really just me being upset and retaliating I guess which I will admit is pathetic. I don't really care what anyone else has, I just wish they would accept what I have.
I just want to work a minimum of 16 hours and get on with people, not have them think badly of me for what I do or don't get in tax credits.
I'm a bit crap at saying it's no one's business when they ask and I think I have nothing to hide so I just tell them and then get left wondering what the hell I've done wrong?
I feel I'm looked down on purely because I have less!
I didn't ask to be a single parent.

Anyway, I am job hunting atm so hopefully I'll be out of there soon. It feels like being back at school and I'm beginning to think badly which I don't like.

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loopylil · 07/02/2009 18:11

went onto this post because i thought it might be about mylene klass ;-)
agree with thumblove witch, nursing a viper to your breast there, .
you don't have to explain yourself, ditch and move on.

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 07/02/2009 18:12

Don't answer any more personal questions.

In fact, limit yourself totally to work related matters.

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 07/02/2009 18:16

How many hours per week does it state in your contract?

kittydotcom · 07/02/2009 20:18

sounds to me as though this women is the type of person who knows the price of everything yet the value of nothing.

toddlerama · 07/02/2009 21:44

"Why do you want to know?" always stumps nosy meddlers! YANBU, she sounds mental.

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