To insist that I finish my dinner ignoring any protests from ds1 with I want to do this and that etc.

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I am eight weeks pregnant on Saturday with dc3. I am underweight with a bmi of 16.5. Midwife cant believe I managed to conceive with such a low bmi - neither can I the babys a total shock. I never weighed this little in my life. Sorry the poor english I'm tired!! ANyway every meal times the same. DS1 aged 3 is up and down I want your food (always exactly the same)he nicks the food of my plate, I want a wee wee (rarely does) I want a poo poo (never does) I want milk/juice/water whatever he is not drinking at that time etc etc. My dinner always goes cold and I always ending up leaving it. Dinner gets so prolonged and its not fair on ds2 aged 15 months who is always so good with his eating. Dh is never home on a work day at meal time as he works long hours so I have to deal with this myself. Anyway tonight I said to him I am going to eat my dinner and thats it. Ds1 then started to scream and said I want to finish my dinner tonight even if you dont and thats final. He then proceeded to climb on my lap take food scream cry, hit me over and over tried to pull me away and screamed naughty mummy for saying that and went under the table screaming and crying. Anyway I stuck to my guns and ate most of it. AIBU? Whats the solution?

exactly what you did. stick to it and ignore his whinging!

YANBU. You did the right thing.

Oh Lord - that's not much fun. Yes, stick to your guns, but perhaps also a big briefing ahead of time to DS1 about what's going to happen, what to expect, and perhaps some incentive for him to be calmer during dinner - stickers, cbeebies or something.

And get lots of snacks for yourself!

YANBU to want to eat in peace, I think you have 2 options (that I can see, maybe someone else with more experience can help you out) but anyway here goes

1)You stand firm and carry on like you have been doing tonight and don't give in to the behaviour, eventually he will learn that it's not acceptable (easier said than done)

or

2. have a small snack with the DS's at dinner time and have something bigger when they've gone to bed.

It's more important that you east right now, for the sake of DC3.........

We've been having a nightmare with DS1 at meal times too, he just keeps wondering off mid-meal. He's getting there now, but it's been a struggle (he's 2.5)

Snack when dc eat then heat yours up when thy are in bed, it is more important that you get to eat your meal at the moment than worry bout eating together

Good idea about the snacking and eating later! Anyway I'm off to bed now very tired!

congratulations on the pregnancy

I'd suggest bribing ds1. If he stays at the table and behaves fairly well (so not getting up and down, yelling, pinching food etc) then he gets a sticker / pudding / to play with a special toy / extra story / big cuddle after meal time. I wouldn't bother insiting he wast his food, just try and get him to stay out so you and ds2 can wat yours!

Be firm with him, but reward any good behaviour at the beginning. You can get tougher with how long / well he needs to behave for once he'd got the hang of it.

Also more snacks for you! cake is especially good from experience

Have you tried feeding ds at different times? maybe he's just a bit too far gone by dinner time? half an hour earlier and he might be better? maybe worth trying

insisting he eats his food!

I wouldn't insist he wast his food either. Mainly cos I'm not sure what wasting is.....

I'd also suggest you and ds2 eat rather than wat food.

I clearly need to sort out my w / e typing finger.....