to expect my DH to organise a night out once in a while?

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Subject - Valentine's day, possible night out. Reaction from DH when I suggest that he might be able to organise it - glum face and heavy sighs. To add insult to injury, I reminded him that he (reluctantly) agreed to book a night out as we were off to bed the other night... the mental turmoil that I plunged him into apparently kept him awake until 1am!!!! The next day I got a pointed comment about just 'another thing to add to his to-do list' and being 'rather tired' as a result of his night-time anguish. Does he think I don't have a to-do list? Does ringing his BIL for babysitting & booking a night in our local curry house have to be a major trauma??? AIBU?

because I book everything else and it would be really nice to feel looked after once in a while

YANBU, but you need to accept that if he is not the organising type, he jsut will never become one. several years into my relationship with my dh, i have come to accept that he will never, or very rarely, take the initiative to organise stuff. he is perfect in most other respects, so by and large i can live with it, even though it still annoys me occasionally...

YANBU but I think it's a man thing. If I didn't book holidays/nights out etc. I don't think we would have gone anywhere or done anything in the last 16 years.

forgot to add- i feel your pain, entirely...

you know what, beforesunrise - you're right. He is not the organising type, and I usually enjoy setting things up for us to do. After all, I organised our 3 week trip to Canada single handed 2 years ago & we had a fantastic time. I think it's the heavy sighs and glum face that gets me down!

i know. but you know, they are so useless at it that for them it is genuinely hard and stressful. let me tell you how it went in our house: "dh, my mum will be here on valentine why dont we take advantage of it and go out" "oh my beloved dw, what an amazing and brilliant idea you just had i would have never thought of it myself" "ok so where would you like to go" "oh i don't know really..." "how about that classy indian we like" "oh good idea" "so you'll book?" "mmm yes i suppose i could". (2 hours later, phone call from work) "ehhhr, WHEN is valentine's day exactly?"

Oooh book it yourself, I've tried that in the past and poor blokeys idea of a nice night out is very different to mine! At least if you've done the organising you won't end up in the pics watching some awful film etc. Bless him he probably is tortured thinking he may let you down. YANBU but you'll probably have more fun if you organise, just make him pay! xx