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...to be p***ed off with DH this morning?

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Dawnus · 05/02/2009 11:57

So, I'm 8 days off the due date, I'm still doing ALL the housework, cooking and running around after our 4 yr old DS...fine, but I asked if he would do the dishwasher for me last night while I took myself to bed early feeling drained...
...Surprise, surprise, I came down to it all this morning!!!! Really, how difficult is it to unload and load the dishwasher for your heavily pregnant wife??
Men are so bloody inconsiderate sometimes...it drives me insane!! Rarrrr!

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purpleduck · 05/02/2009 12:03

I would have left it for HIM.
Seriously!

VinegarTits · 05/02/2009 12:03

Do the dishwasher? Maybe he's just not into diswashers

yanbu

pamelat · 05/02/2009 12:21

I would remove all the pots from it and put them on his side of the bed for him to discover later when he is tired

wideratthehips · 05/02/2009 12:26

hehehe...i like that one, hide them under the duvet in a row.....

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 05/02/2009 12:28

why are you doing it all instead of waving a rolling pin at him and telling him that if he values his danglies he'll stop being a thoughtless plank!!

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Dawnus · 05/02/2009 13:14

Ha ha ha, liking the ideas!!
I have tried leaving things in the vain hope he'll grow a brain, but the truth is, they don't get done...and it's me who has to look at it and work around it all day long, so it's just easier to get on with it!
He's got a shock coming when he has to step into my shoes when DD arrives tho...then I'll be laughing lots and getting my own back

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HecateQueenOfGhosts · 05/02/2009 13:16

You've tried leaving things and you've tried doing them yourself, but have you tried sitting down with him and saying "come on love, this really isn't fair you know..."

quint · 05/02/2009 13:17

You could always do what I do and blow up like a volcano every couple of months - things improve for about a week (if I'm lucky) then go back to normal, until I blow again.

If anyone finds a cure for not seeing what is right in front of them and damn bloody obvious, can someone let me know - cheers!

Hassled · 05/02/2009 13:23

I agree you need to spell the bleeding obvious out sometimes - words of one syllable preferably. And do it now, well before the baby gets here.

DH and I have this great system whereby he treats the house like a hotel, I tolerate it for a few weeks until I'm a simmering mass of bitter resentment, shout and strop for a bit, he apologises, mends his ways for about 4 days and then treats the house like a hotel again. In his defence, he does spend much of the week living in a real hotel

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Dawnus · 05/02/2009 13:57

I think he see's my maternity leave as a holiday...he's at work all day, so why should he have to help at home if I'm here all day.
Seriously....
I could blow up in his face (and have done on many occasions) but much the same as you guys, things improve for a week and then it's 'mug' as usual.
Thanks for your comments...it's nice to know that my DH isn't the only selfish f**k!!!

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mamas12 · 05/02/2009 16:02

I used to do what pamelat suggested but I put dirty things into his briefcase for him to open at work !!!

queenofbeas · 05/02/2009 16:15

What do you say to him? Aparet from you lazy, selfish bastard?

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