my dp is australian, all his family live in oz, we have 1 dd aged 3. dp's family have never been that interested in us or dd but seem to think we are running a bloody backpacking hostel for them to have cheap holidays.
When dd was born dps mum never even sent a card and dps dad sent a scratch card saying if we won we could get something for the baby!
when dd was about 7 months old dps mum and step dad decided to come for a visit, and didnt tell us until 5 days before they arrived that they would be staying with us in our tiny flat for a month as they didnt want to pay for a hotel. So i gritted my teath, bought them a bed, upturned my whole home and welcomed them with open arms. They went out doing tourist stuff every day, took no notice of dd but made sure they were home every night in time for dinner. at the time we were totally skint, which they knew and they didnt even offer us any money for shopping, lovely.
A few months later dps dad (who is english but lived in oz for years) decided he wanted to go to the world cup in germany, but hey why pay for a hotel when you can stay with us? so once again i had to have somebody i have never met living in my house for three weeks, while he was here it was dd's first birthday - you guessed it not even a card! this is the man that paid £800 for a plane ticket from london to germany to watch a football match couldn't even buy his only grandchild a birthday card.
So they have both visited, always on the phone moaning we dont make enough effort , dont send enough pics of dd, dont phone dp's grandparents enough ect.
about 18months ago i ahd an op to have my thyroid removed, which happily co-incided with a trip to england by dp's nan, dp's dad didnt talk to us for 3 months because she had to stay in a hotel, because i had only been out of hospital for 2 days and didnt feel up to sleeping on the sofa so that she could have my bed. she wasnt even here to visit us, was going to see family up north but flew in to heathrow and didnt want to waste money on a hotel.
just before xmas dp's brother decides to take a year out and come to england, we have moved now so have an extra bedroom, dp's dad kindly told him that we had room and would be happy to have him stay for as long as ge liked - didnt think to check with us, naturally. so we managed to get rid of the dopey brother after 3 weeks, he didnt even get dd a xmas card, let alone offer us money for food ect, but we got rid of him so thats great.
On monday sent out loads of pics of dd in the snow, just got a reply from the brother (none from either parent) glad you emailed, friend is coming over from oz next month, i'm going to meet them in london, told them we can stay at yours for a few nights!!!
so aibu to tell the whole lot of them to fuck off?