To have been irritated by this comment.

[Stefka]

I have been a SAHM for the last fifteen months and am just about to return to work. I am starting two seperate jobs at the same time both of which require a lot of preperation work and that combined with my general nerves about leaving DS and returning to work after a break have left me feeling really frazzled.

I mentioned to a friend that I was feeling really stressed and she patted me and said 'Welcome to the real world.'

I am really irritated by this. Was I somehow not in the real world when I was at home with DS? I wonder where I was then because the endless sleepless nights (which have not stopped just because I am going back to work), the difficulties breast feeding (which have thankfully stopped and feeding is lovely now),and all the stress of being a new mum felt pretty bloody real to me.

YANBU, but people do tend to say that sort of thing without thinking about it.

Doesn't stop it being annoying, but it's probably not personal.

YANBU.I remember taking dd and ds into work to see everyone briefly when DD was 6 months.She was a terrible sleeper and refluxy,and we were just beginning to wonder whether she had some developmental issues.I was in the process of potty training ds and life was generally pretty hectic and crap.

Anyhoo my bosses boss came out with the breathtaking statement "So,Whats it like being a lady of leisure,then???"

[HMM]

YANBU, what a silly patronising bint.

Bint is a great word!

I know she has stress at her work but she has been there for years and so doesn't have to do the hours of planning that I do, or cope with leaving her son for the first time which I am dreading, or stay up late planning and then get up half the night with DS and still start the day at five am.

Nobiggy is so right YANBU

Oh, come on, Stefka, what do you even do with your time when you're a SAHM, anyway? Watch This Morning, natter over tea and biccies, watch the world go by.

You are definitely not BU. This woman clearly has no brain. Why stress over it? In fact, why is she even your friend? Punch her in the eye. You'll feel so much better for it.

YABU (a bit) because it's just something people say, but if this friend gives birth you're entitled to hand her some nappies and say "welcome to the REAL world" with a big grin at what she has ahead of her

She sounds like a right twat. I take it that she doesn't have any DCs? I think before having DCs I might have thought the same thankfully, I knew to keep my opinions to myself.

Interestingly, my SIL used to patronise me and DH no end before we had children (she had 2 dd) by saying comments such as this. i.e. when I eventually got pg, she was all "welcome to the real world".

Bloody hell it was annoying. She used to rub her hands with glee at the thought of us having broken sleep and not being able to go out as much. Not that she was bitter, of course!