So, you know the GPs really want you to visit them as often as possible but

[WinkyWinkola]

you spend the entire time running after the DCs, trying to stop them playing with (and breaking) various and numerous china ornaments and chemicals under the sink. It gets a bit stressful and not at all restful over three days.

Is it unreasonable for me to ask the GPs who are mad keen for us to come and visit them, that they put away their ornaments etc because I simply can't keep up with the DCs when they split up and begin their paths of destruction separately?

MIL and my mum have both been annoyed when something got broken and spilled on their carpets but I feel like saying, "Well, what did you expect?"

It makes me want to stay away frankly because I can't stand the running around nor their irritation when a little bull in their china shop does his/her stuff.

Initially i was getting all riled up about the fact you were expecting General Practioners (!) to pack away their stuff for your visits. But having understood now i can see your point!

YANBU at all phone them and ask I'm sure that when you explain like you have here they will be fine (!0)

sorry practitioners

That's what I thought: a)GPs round our way would rather you dropped dead than bother them, and b)I never noticed much in the way of chintz in the surgery...although dd2 did upend a sharps box once

YANBU

Actually ds does leave a trail of destruction at the GPs (doctors version) too. YANBU in principle about the grandparents thing, but the practicality is a different thing. Most grandparents haven't had a toddler running around for years so they don't think like someone who's always looking out for what the dcs can break/ingest/spill/destroy next. My mum is an interior designer and her house is full of beautiful things within reach of ds. She now sends my dad round collecting much of it before we visit, but that was after many sorely learnt lessons (several broken pieces of unreplaceable china and dented silverware)

MY DS2 was in the midst of his diagnosis for severe when we had to visit the GP. He had a couple of ormaments which he moved out of the way. He also had one of those singing fish things DS2 grabbed at it and set it off twice.
GP tutted and then said " can you stop him doing that"

I was very stresed and replied
" No I bloody can't. We didn't turn up unexpectedly. He has autism -You're the Doctor- you knew he was coming - . You should have put the farking fish away"

Fortunately he roared with laughter , said " I asked for that" and became a fantastic support to me for the next four years

My parents used to make a real point of NOT putting their ornaments away "Why should we, its OUR home", and then use the fact that ds touched them as a reason to label me a bad mother and my child out of control to the rest of my family.

I just stopped taking him there. Problem solved.

Also a few years later he was diagnosed with autism and I think they felt pretty shit about their attitude then. It has not been mentioned since and ornaments are put away now.

I don't think GPs should be expected tp modify their houses (apart from dangerous stuff) but they then need to accept the consequences ie you will stop going there or there house may get trashed.

My parents were always going on about me bringing DC to their house so I could have a rest but with all their glass doors, dog and ornaments it was far from restful. They got offended when I mentioned this.

I don't think GPs should be expected tp modify their houses (apart from dangerous stuff) but they then need to accept the consequences ie you will stop going there or there house may get trashed.

My parents were always going on about me bringing DC to their house so I could have a rest but with all their glass doors, dog and ornaments it was far from restful. They got offended when I mentioned this.

i understand what you are saying BUT it is their home,their environment.your ds need to adjust not them.likewise if someone came to my home and i have a stair gate i wouldn't expect to remove it to suit GP's

what did they expect,err not to have squash/biscuits mashed into floor or ornaments broken.no one expects that.you don't think oh shall i invite ww around,gosh i expect they shall break something

I would just say 'what do you expect?'

Life is soo much less stressful now that the pil come to us rather than us go there.

My parents house is not so bad as more space and not many ornaments.

I'd be tempted to move them yourself to make a point.

It's very difficult. My parents have long long stairs with flagstones at the bottom, but no stairgates. Water comes out of the tap so hot you could virtually put it straight into a cup of tea. My Father has lots of pills and potions for various health problems that tend to be everywhere.

It's easier now they are older, but was very stressful when they were little.

I thought you were talking about Dr's surgeries

sorry, nothing else to add

granny's house full of bric-a-rac,ornaments,dolly toilet roll holder with crochet skirt,fluffy toilet seat,is a testament to aesthetics gone wrong.like an obstacle course

but it is her unique style.we have to tippy toe around trying not to break owt

I know exactly what you mean, Winky. My in-laws' house is a haven of glass and completely insuitable for a 2 year old to charge around in. It's spotless and I can't take the comments when he drops food. His step-grandmother also can't undrstand that MY SON DOES NOT LIKE SALMON.
Mind you, they refuse to come to our place because it has toys all over the place. Dur, we have a toddler.
And they don't like out two dogs. That's a bloody good reason for me to want a third...