To not want to go overboards with DS's 2nd birthday?

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Frasersmum123 · 04/02/2009 15:20

DS's 2nd birthday is in March and it falls on a Monday. DH is about to start a new job where he will be working away, going on Sunday afternoon and returning late Friday afternoon.

So my plan was that we could invite DS's family over on the Friday evening before his birthday (His brother + GF, Mum and her partner and his SM)just for a little tea party, then go and visit my family on the Saturday, as they live far away, and then on Sunday go to Soft Play as usual.

Now there is a massive Ho-Ha as they dont want to do Friday, they want to do the Monday, which is his birthday. I have several reasons for saying no to this, but mainly because its a school night and they always manage to get DS1 so worked up that he wont go to bed, and I find it difficult to stick to our routine, meaning a grumpy DS1 in the morning. Also, DH wont be here.

I want to stick to my plans, but do you think I am being mean?

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bubblagirl · 04/02/2009 15:24

no i don't think your being mean explain that dh wont be here for his b day and would rather do it so he can enjoy the day its up to them then if they come or not

GrimmaTheNome · 04/02/2009 15:33

YANBU.

Its entirely up to you if and when you celebrate your DSs birthday.

We didn't do much at all for DDs 1st or 2nd, did something just for her not anyone else.

Bettymum · 04/02/2009 15:52

You are not being mean at all. You are the one inviting people, you decide when you would like to invite them. I think a little tea party sounds lovely and a Friday surely is much better for everyone, they can relax as it's the weekend.
Have a lovely party

minkybetty · 05/02/2009 13:53

Stick to your guns and do it when you want to do it - you are the one who deals with the fall out....

PlumBumMum · 05/02/2009 13:54

Yeap stick to your guns

Stretch · 05/02/2009 13:55

Sounds like a lovely weekend you've got planned.

etchasketch · 05/02/2009 13:55

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wishingchair · 05/02/2009 14:05

YANBU. Do it however you want to. More important his dad is there. Hope you have a lovely time.

Mimia · 05/02/2009 14:18

YANBU, it is not like you are excluding them from the celebrations.

wideratthehips · 05/02/2009 14:18

as everyone else says...

hes your child, you want dh there and if they don't like it they will be missing out...they dont have a right to get you to re arrange.

my ds2 2nd birthday is on a monday too and we are having family party on sun.....as we would with all our little children so that family could be there...and not at work

HSMM · 05/02/2009 14:32

My DD rarely has her celebration on her birthday, but my Mum nearly always pops over on the actual day. She does all the hyped up stuff at the celebration and then just pops over for a cuppa and a slice of cake on the day. My DH gets upset sometimes that she sees DD on her birthday and he doesn't.

Stick by your guns.

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