To think some people disclose too much information on forums?

[BananaSkin]

A friend has just been updating me on something that has gone on on a parenting website I used to frequent.

The OP is a slightly strange woman who seems very insecure and posts every minute detail of her life for all to see (most of it of an 'oh look at me, I'm great because I have bought ...., I am going on holiday here .....' It's all a bit 'I've got considerably more money that yow'!

Well ... she has apparently been posting information about her husband's employees and an impending redundancy situation. Along with all the other facts that she posts, the company is immediately identifiable to anyone who sees this. The forum is now up in arms because a poster forwarded this to her husband's company and land her in the proverbial.

I mean, why? Why are people so naive about the internet. I can't believe some of the things I read on line that people have posted about their family, jobs, bosses, villages etc.

yanbu to think it, but there's not a lot you can do about it, and unless it affects you personally can't see why it would bother you overly much or why you need to discuss it as well.

Well that too

If it's the person I'm thinking of, she's got form for name changes, frequent flounces and then later returns to the forum. I wouldn't be entirely surprised if the whole story isn't another attention seeking stunt.

She's not naive, just self absorbed and over indulged

Yes her BB. It doesn't bother me, but it surprises me that people are prepared to lay them selves open to problems in this way.

that's because you're not thinking with her head on!

I genuinely don't think she sees this (alleged ) situation as a problem, but is relishing the attention it brings. She's quite trollish IMHO. Not the normal 'posts once and says something outrageous' type troll, but the long term type. The ones that suck people into their life and take attention, energy and sympathy from people. Right now she's sat back watching replies come in all saying oh no how terrible / please don't leave us etc etc. It's like sport or hobby or something to her.

It suprises me how many people fall for it. Repeatedly... Still she can be quite amusing on occasions. As trolls go she's mostly harmless!

She sounds exhausting to know irl - or maybe that's just her on-line alter ego

I think YANBU, people do disclose far to much information on forums, she was silly to disclose information about her dh and his company, and the other poster was quite nasty to forward it on to drop her in the shit

It is a good example of the potenital risks you take when you do post personal information on forums, you never know who is reading your posts, or who might recognise you from rl and use stuff against you

The same sort of thing happened on here, to do with the for sale board.

I do think people are naive about the internet still. My sister has let her 10yo daughter have a facebook page and the pictures she has on there are really inappropriate and not surprisingly, she befriended men from other East European countries. I told my sister who said she'd changed the settings.

But I think people genuinely do not realise that this information is open and free for everyone to look at. They treat it a bit like an MSN conservation. That's why it's so dangerous, esp for children. All parents should be able to have access to a free internet safety course. The government should also be doing their bit to highlight these issues.

I consider myself pretty canny when it comes to the internet, but even I got caught out when I realised that people could search for me in facebook and have access to my pictures without having to be a friend. The default settings are very public. Now is this my fault for not checking, or facebooks fault for making those settings default?

I don't think YABU in general but the poster in particular is well known for living in a fantasy world. I suspect it's a cover for how sad her life actually is. She has lied so may times that I doubt that anything that she says is true But it's quite weird to think that we 'know' so much intimate detail about her husbands poor business acumen, her mother in laws bad personal hygiene and her evil sister in law and her battle with infertility. Not to mention when she posted a picture of her friends child, saying that she had psychological problems. I think a grown woman like that is master of her own fate to be honest - this is the second time that someone has allegedly forwarded things to her husband after all. Don't personaly believe a word of it.

I often wonder this myself. I also use the other forum from time to time, and am often surprised. Thing is I am probably guilty of it myself!! The annoying thing on facebook is that other people can tag me in photos, or not, and don't need my permission to put it online!!

You're obviously stalking her Sassybeast - you must be jealous

my very name discloses more than most people want to know about me

YABU. Try to put yourselves in other people's shoes for a change. Like mine. I like it when people share snippets of their daily lives online because it makes it a lot easier for me to go round and help myself to their things when they're out.

You all know exactly about my life!