To have expected a present on my birthday?

[redybrek]

Can I whine??

Exactly a year ago yesterday I gave birth to our beautiful son, on my birthday! So of course yesterday was extra special or so I thought.

Also I'm expecting again, I'm 30 weeks, so a quite hormonal.

DH didn't get me a present!!! He's been talking about getting me an eternity ring so I really thought something would appear during the day but no. Nothing. We had a little tea party with family for ds which was nice, but none of them bought me anything either!

DH bought some flowers, but he went out for them in the morning

Is it me? I'm normally not bothered too much by that sort of thing but I thought, well, surely yesterday was a BIT different? Being ds 1st birtday with me??

I feel your pain. It has got to the point that I now go and buy my own present and tell DH what he owes me. YANBU.

YANBU - you deserved a pressie!!! I would book yourself a nice pampering treat and use dh's credit card to pay for it! He can treat you to a nice haircut and facial before baby arrives. Happy belated birthday from me x

He's talking about an eternity ring, he went out and got you flowers.

Not much to moan about there I think.

There are many on here who will say that you should empty the joint bank account to get yourself something fab and shame him for not getting you a pres.

Dp doesn't get me a present. But he is wonderful all year round. My ex used to do all the flowers and pressie big thing each birthday xmas and valentines day and then the day after he'd be back to his abusive self.

My friend married a Jehovahs' witness. He's her 2nd husband and she loves the fact that its his religion stopping him from celebrating her birthday, not his man-brain!!

Thanks guys. I might book myself in for a pampering.

YANBU. I hope you told him how you felt.

15 years ago 4 days after my birthday I gave birth to our lovely son - ds1,I got nothing that year and presents over the years have been 'odd' to say the least -now i know money can be short but dh buys me the weirdest stuff (i think) last year he bought me a tin of hairspray....some shampoo and very obscure book that i just cant 'get into'.....yet at other times hes v thoughtful and generous ......i would just like a special day on my birthday not neccesarily an expensive day....

did he used to buy you birthday gifts before your son was born? or is this the 'norm'?

Happy Birthday for yesterday btw

I bet you were excited about your sons b-day, its a big thing - yes he should have remembered but its how man brains work really - come on, you are expecting him to multi task!!!! One thing at a time - I would say something though, not because i think he was out of order, but because you are understandably upset. Maybe you could suggest a night out for the pair of you - something "grown up". If you have always had pressies in the past then its sad not to get them. We have had this issue with xmas, we didn't get presents for each other since DD born due to finances - how depressing it was, this year we made sure we got each other something, although - get this, i got DP a sat nav, he got me a bread maker!! The romantic thing - not!

Mention it, men are just a bit emotionally dense sometimes, don't let it become an issue.

thank you xxx

Yes tell him redybrek tell him you are upset because as a matter of fact you were there both times at both births you know it couldn't have been done without you now could it.

YANBU at all. Poor you, I would have been disappointed as well. Hope he makes it up to you. Happy birthday for yesterday. x

My DH got me presents for the baby for my Christmas present. From everyone else, that's lovely. From him, it actually hurt a bit, well-meaning as it was. So I know where you're coming from. It's nice to feel you are still a couple, as well as parents.