To have things delivered to PIL house when we live abroad?

[Moop]

We are visiting UK in a few weeks time and staying at PIL. We have one child and another on the way and we live in Belgium where everything is really expensive. I have been ordering stuff on the internet and getting it delivered to PIL and they have started complaining. They have a 5 bed house and outhouses and say the house is getting like a warehouse! Obviously there is a limit to what I can order as we have to get stuff back in the car so they are exaggerating. It is causing them no bother at all that I can see at yet they want to whinge. On top of which they are commenting on the money I am spending (none of their business). I want to order a couple more small things but dread phoning them up and asking if it is ok. The stuff will be in their house for 2 more weeks. Am I being unreasonable?

[BonsoirAnna]

My parents would never refuse either - but I would never order anything bulky and have it delivered to their house to await my arrival without asking whether that was OK. And I would check whether it had arrived, and thank them for holding on to it.

[oldraver]

Moop DID say she had asked if it was ok

[mm22bys]

YABVU.

It is their house, it is not yours to use at your convenience.

Maybe ask next time, and maybe they will be a bit more amenable.

[mm22bys]

Just seen that you did ask....maybe you need to ask them why they've changed their tune (or get your DH to).

[Themasterandmargaritas]

Well I do the same thing when I come over, but perhaps the buggy and carseat might be a bit OTT, could you not just have bought this when you arrived here? I do try to keep my parcels down to a few essentials, but my ILs are fantastic and even oversaw delivery of new furniture to a new house we had bought some years ago.

[stuffitllama]

If you've helped them out as much as you say then yanbu. Say "do you want me to stop" and make them say yes or no.
If they say no, accept it gracefully and go shopping when there explaining why. They'll feel a bit silly. At the moment they feel taken for granted. Maybe you should say: do you feel taken for granted? Nothing like getting it out there.

[staffylover]

Yes! Live back in the UK! If a parcel is delivered and there is no one in, who has to traipse to the post office to pick it up? I`d tell you to feck off! They might be having a nice lie-in and it is them that has to get up! As someone has said, buy it when you visit the UK or get a friend to take it in.

[onlinemummy]

I think families should try and help each other out as much as possible and if opening the door to accept a delivery is too much to ask then what does that say about the support system in families today?!