To be slightly offended by this?

[Tormy]

My friend was telling me about a conversation her daughter and friend had about my DS. Apparantly the other girl fancies him and she said "he has really nice eyes".

My friend then started laughing and said:

"So DD said 'come here' to your DS, looked at his eyes and shouted 'NO HE DOESN'T!"

and she was in fits of giggles about it

I know it probably sounds like an over-reaction but personally, if my DS said something like that to another kid I'd tell him it wasn't nice ... not burst out laughing and boast to the kids parents!

AIBU?

sorry that face was meant to be a face.

How old are they?

They're 10.

I know its just childish sillyness and I'm not annoyed at the kid ... just thought it was a bit crap of friend to laugh about it and boast. If someone said that to her DD it would be world war 3.

She's done similar things in the past though, she always laughs when her DD is mean to other kids.

my friend also does this sort of thing, kind of enjoys petty putdowns of my ds.

it sucks, yanbu

that is really irresponsible, she should be teaching her dd to be mindfull of other peoples feelings.It's no wonder some kids become bullies if they have parents setting examples like that. She sounds like a parent at our school.

IME with DS1 (12) they usually say they don't like their hair/eyes/jumper if they do actually like them in a 1st crush sort of way.

DS1 and girl next door did this a while ago and I talked to her mum about it but in a 'I think our DC's are developing crushes on each other' than a way to get a dig in.

But then if you have experience of the mum being a cow then YANBU

Well her DD must have learnt it from somewhere...

Your friend doesn't sound very nice at all, sorry.

IMO your slight offence is quite reasonable.

She's a twat, why are you friends ?

YANBU to be offended.

Just cross off her DD as a potential DIL.

We're not really anymore. We used to be but this kind of attitude from her really started to get to me so I started to keep my distance.

However the past couple of weeks I have seen more of her and unfortunately she keeps reminding me unintentionally about why I kept my distance in the first place.

Like another conversation yesterday. She told me her and her DD were walking to school and they saw another girl from their class. A girl with special needs who is often very loud and OTT with emotions etc. (My DS was the only boy at school to give her a christmas card last year and she flung her arms around him shrieking "oh!! thank you!! oh thank you so much!!!" etc! Poor DS didn't know how to react

But anyway, friend and DD were walking to school, they saw this girl ahead and friend tells me very proudly:

"When DD saw her she said 'quick mum, put your head down so she doesn't see us'"

and she was laughing like mad about shunning this poor girl and then added:

"Anyway, she saw us and shouted "HI DD" so DD just rolled her eyes and said 'oh ... hi' ... it was so funny"

Yuk. I would not only be offended I'd be disappearing over the horizon.
Horrible that she's also teaching her DD to be the same. Don't blame you for distancing yourself.

Good grief, what a depressing attitude she has. Her sense of humour is to put it kindly - though I could think of some choice words to use if I wasn't putting it kindly...

I can see why you were steering clear of her.

yabu to spend anytime in this person's company

she sounds vile but unless you point out to her that she is a unthinking/crass/cruel/numpty you are guilty by association

stay away!!

keep your distance op.

silly cow.