One of my closest friends is eight months pregnant.
She is starting to struggle a bit (back etc) and, as it's her second, she is well aware of what lays ahead.
I spent three hours with her yesterday and she is just wanting to get this over with. She is sick of people patting her tummy and calling her 'fatty' and giggling about whether 'she's still with us' etc as she does the school run.
She had a miscarriage before this pregnancy and is a very sensitive woman anyway so she is finding this tough
Another friend of hers has organised a surprise baby shower for her at very short notice. I don't know this woman very well but my friend has had problems with her being very interfering and overpowering etc who always needs to be the centre of attention.
I just think the baby shower is not my friend's cup of tea at all and that this other woman is trying to make herself the centre of attention. My friend is not good in groups and people turning up with breast pads and sanitary towels 'for a joke' sounds dreadful.
In truth, I think these 'baby showers' are crap pointless things anyway but I'm trying to put my feelings to one side!
I feel my friend is vulnerable at the moment and in need of support.
Should I warn her about this plan so she can mentally prepare? This sounds terribly high handed I know but I feel I'm letting her down if I don't.
AIBU thinking about doing this? Should I just butT out?