to be angry with my DP for feeding our sick 11 month old a yogurt 5 days out of date?

[coveredinsnot]

I discovered this morning that my DP fed our 11 month old son a yogurt for breakfast that had past it's sell by date 5 days ago. Now, he's very opinionated on the use-by/sell-by date thing, and insists on ignoring them (he thinks it's a conspiracy to get us to eat more...). I think this is fine if he applies this rule to himself, and he knows his body is fine with it, but I feel fuming that our poor son, who has had a raging temperature for 5 days, diarrhoea for 4 days, and is really quite poorly, has been given something that's potentially going to upset his tummy even more. I wouldn't be so annoyed (but I would still be a bit cross I think) if he weren't ill, but the fact that his system is already compromised and now he's having to digest something which potentially could compromise it further, really annoys me. AIBU?

sorry your boy is unwell but well if yoghurt looked alright,smelt alright.probably ok

traceybath, at the risk of stating the obvious and making the irritating comment said a thousand times before in similar threads- how do you think people survived before supermarkets started listening to lawyers and sticking 'best before' labels on everything?

Yoghurt / sour cream / creme fraiche = gone off milk. For example. A few days more is not going to turn the stuff fatal.

I think people would be a lot safer trusting their eyes and sense of smell, because if a supermarket ever slipped up and put the wrong date on something that truly was bad and not fit to eat, would they blindly follow the packaging?

op, I wrote a similar thread over a year ago! My dd2 was 8 months old and he fed her yoghurt that was 3 weeks out of date. I hadn't seen it tucked in the back of the fridge when I cleaned it the week before but somehow du found it and didn't spot the organic baby yoghurt sticking out at the front- the baby on it was laughing at him! DD2 wasn't well either at the time. But it didn't harm her, she's 2 now and rules the roost.
Isn't mumsnet great, you always find somebody with similar or worse experience to yourself and gives you reassurance. Your ds will be fine!

Is it really about the yogurt? Or is it about the fact that you are tired out looking after a poorly baby and by doing something like this, you feel as if your DP is not 'on your side'?

YABU, but completely understandably. Can you explain this to DP, and make sure you negotiate some 'me' time if you need it.

Hope DS starts getting better soon.

My dad is a (retired) GP, with a particular interest in the gut/that neck of the woods, and he used to buy yogurts and then wait for them to go out of date before eating them! So I think it's probably fine

I wouldn't have thought your ds would have eaten the yogurt if it had gone fizzy, which it probably hadn't in 5 days (although it really depends on the conditions). However yogurt is a really good choice for someone who has had an upset tummy.

I echo others, would not feed a sick child any yoghurt as it can make tummy bugs worse, but would not be bothered by the use by date.

It is a conspiracy to make us buy more. Has that been mentioned yet...

I think it will probably be fine, but I'd be annoyed as well. YANBU.
And as for the comment that 'some men wouldn't think to do breakfast' how ridiculous! I wouldn't have chosen to have a child with someone who was so inadequate that they couldn't even feed a child. Why are people so grateful when fathers are capable of basic parenting?

I find it really amazing that so many of you would happily feed a sick child food that is out of date... amazing! Brave women. I just wouldn't, given that there are usually other options - hardly any of us would only have yogurt in the house, would we? Or have I discovered an underclass of hard-nosed mothers feeding their sick kids mouldy food, because they not only think it's fine, but have nothing else to offer them? Wow.

I would be a bit miffed...
But whenever one of my kids has an upset tummy, I cut out dairy anyway so I would be more annoyed for that reason.

However, DD ate a yogurt which was about 5 days past it's sell by and was fine. You can tlel if it's off and if I have any doubt, I try it myself first!

YABU.

coveredinsnot - if you put a question like this in AIBU, people will disagree with you, just for the sake of being obtuse. I doubt very much that any of us would feed a baby ill with a temperature and diarrhea yogurt, out of date or not. It's just common sense. Regarding Use-by dates as a ploy to get us to eat more: Conspiracy theory or not, I don't think we should be testing it out on a sick baby. I would have eaten it though, as long as I wasn't sick.

belgo - I know people will disagree with me on AIBU, and I am allowed to disagree with them back, just for the sake of being obtuse!! I like it. It tickles me.

FWIW: I showed my dp the yogurt in the fridge the day before he fed it to my ds, pointed out that it was past it's use-by date and by how much, and said I was leaving it in the fridge because I knew how much he (dp) likes eating out of date yogurt... and then he feeds it to the sick babe... So, I really don't think I'm being unreasonable, I think he was being a complete airhead! Maybe it's all that rotting food he keeps eating...