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I have been playing nasty joke on DP and am too scared to stop

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GiveMeAllYourPoison · 30/01/2009 08:37

I've been with my partner about sex weeks. I usually wear contact lenses but I like to buy the different coloured ones. However, as it was a firt date I wanted to just wear clear ones.

So that morning I totally forgot and put in some deep green ones. I meant to take them out before the date but things were running late and I forgot. On the date, he looked at me and said "wow, I never noticed how green your eyes were before ... how strange"

I was a bit embarrassed to say "actually, they're contacts" so I just changed the subject.

After the date I told my friend about it and she said it would be hilarious to wear different coloured ones next time to see what he says.

So the next date I wore really, dark brown ones. He noticed straight away and said "do you wear contacts then?" I acted dumb and said "no, why?" so he said "your eyes were green last time". I acted all confused and suspitious and said "err, no ... they've always been brown, you sure you're not thinking of someone else?" and HE got embarrassed but he looked totally and utterly confused and it WAS funny.

The next date I was due at his house, he was making dinner for me. I went in my brown contacts knowing he'd definately remember this time. He didn't mention it. I took with me however some red contacts (obviously I never usually wear red, these were bought specifically for this) and during the course of the night I slipped them in when the room was dark. At one point he turned to me as we were watching TV and jumped and said "shit! your eyes, whats wrong with them??" so I acted confused again and said "what now??" so he turned on the light, saw my bright red eyes and dropped his drink

I ran upstairs to the bathroom, took them out realising I may have taken it too far, came back down in the brown ones and he said "why didn't you just tell me you wear contacts??" and I said "I don't wear contacts, can we please just drop it?" and refused to speak about it.

Anyway this was on Saturday night. He has phoned since but made no mention of the eye thing. So, either he thinks I'm nuts, thinks I'm just trying to be funny or thinks I'm ill.

Do I bring it up and apologise or leave it and hope he doesn't mention it again?

OP posts:
LilRedWG · 30/01/2009 11:23

Just read other posts and see I'm not alone in this presumption.

Watusi · 30/01/2009 11:26

Sorry but from the OP you really do sound like a freak.

Or a twelve year old. I'm frankly amazed he is still making contact with you at all.

DivamakesKimchi · 30/01/2009 11:27

first thing i thought was how old are you. tbh, i cant believe you.
i would not surprise if he calls it off. if i was you i would talk to him, and explain how your friend and you started this.

Watusi · 30/01/2009 11:32

Even if it's real, and even if OP owns up now it's not going to make things better unless he has the sense of humour of a small reptile.

Mad.

belcantwait · 30/01/2009 11:33

you are making atwat out of yourself. poor bloke. this will end in tears for you , you know that dont yu???

TallulahToo · 30/01/2009 11:38

PMSL!!! It might be a bit extreme but a great test of his staying power too. You must have something if he continues contact after this. Wouldn't write off the future with him just yet. OR is he just plotting a big revenge as his farewell... IYSWIM

loobeylou · 30/01/2009 11:58

LOL Blu!

OP, do you often base new relationships on lies? Do you not take this sort of thing seriously? Not a good way to go IMO

in fact, I kind of hope you are not for real as i cannot see why you would do this at all.

after one or two times with different lenses, you could have come clean and laughed WITH him, even asked which he preferred, now it can only seem like you have been laughing at him

boogiewoogie · 30/01/2009 13:09

May have been fuuny first time but you know that YABU and I find this quite hard to believe to be honest.
I hope that you've apologised but I would'nt be surprised if he didn't want to have anything to do with you again.

solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 30/01/2009 17:18

How about drawing some boogly eyes and big fangs on your twinkle? That will see him off once and for all.

memoo · 30/01/2009 17:21

crikey, how to get dumped after only a few dates!

Lotster · 30/01/2009 17:27

Ok I have told blokes on a date before I had a glass eye, but only ones I knew I didn't like, just to watch them trying to look like they weren't working out which one!

But it does seem you've dragged this out uncomfortably long. Admit it was a joke and move on I reckon, especially if you like him. Otherwise he's thing you're weird.
And I wouldn't call him your "partner" in his earshot unless things are really whirlwind, as this might freak him out at this early stage!!

pointydog · 30/01/2009 17:29

Have you read 'The Twits'?

claireybrations · 30/01/2009 17:39

Wierd.

Obviously he knows that you have been wearing contacts and is wondering why you are pretending you don't. If you did that to me I'd be thinking you were a real freak tbh.

Yes it was funny to say no the first time, but after that you should have admitted it and you could have laughed about it together, as it is he probably thinks you are a wierdo.

MegBusset · 30/01/2009 17:49

See, the reason the OP is completely implausible is that a man noticed a) what colour her eyes were in the first place and b) that they'd changed.

I've been with DH for eight years and I very much doubt he could tell you what colour my eyes are...

NotPlayingAnyMore · 30/01/2009 17:56

You should confess, but even when you do, even if he forgives you and your relationship becomes longer term and serious, he will still look back on this and not necessarily in a good way.
First impressions aren't everything but they do count.

I think you should set the poor sod free so he can find someone who won't mess him around

MadamDeathstare · 30/01/2009 18:07

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 30/01/2009 18:45

He's probably going to feel so awful when you tell him - you've been laughing at him all this time.
I think it's a really odd thing to do to someone, especially if you actually like them and are hoping to have a meaningful relationship with them.

Fleurlechaunte · 30/01/2009 20:28

Surely this is a troll. A very imaginative one but I just can't believe anyone would actually do this unless completely cuckoo.

georgimama · 30/01/2009 21:09

I have to say, I think the most disturbing part is describing a man you've been dating for six weeks as your partner.

He isn't your partner, he's barely even your boyfriend.

Does no one else think this is strange?

lilacclaire · 30/01/2009 21:16

Oh dear, apologise profusely and hope he doesn't have you commited

elmoandella · 30/01/2009 21:20

loon

KatyH · 30/01/2009 21:23

I too have to confess to finding this very funny. I'm also still laughing at chequers jumping out on her DH! What a catch he must have thought you were .

OP you do sound a bit bonkers but you made me laugh, maybe he will too.

dragonbutter · 30/01/2009 21:27

I think it's funny too, although maybe not the best idea if you actually want to keep him.

I suspect that he hasn't really really challenged you on it yet so he can have a laugh with you, that he maybe isn't going to find it funny.

I want to congratulate you on embracing your singledom and the nutty world of dating.
Brilliant.

dragonbutter · 30/01/2009 21:29

oh and it's a great screening process.
you can ditch the ones that don't react well to your sense of humour.
good idea all in all.