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AIBU?

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to think this is a little OTT?

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Olifin · 30/01/2009 06:58

I've never been to a renewal of wedding vows ceremony and perhaps they're all like this... My ILs are celebrating their 40th anniversary tomorrow by renewing their vows in church followed by a sit-down lunch, then an evening party and buffet.

MIL phoned yesterday and I asked if she was looking forward to tomorrow, to which she replied in a strained voice: 'No, completely frantic', seeming to expect some sort of sympathy. I felt like pointing out that if it makes her so stressed and unhappy, why bother? She seems to be treating the whole thing as a wedding and we've been asked to be at the church early to hand out orders of service, button-holes and corsages MIL has spent week searching for the perfect outfit and FIL assures me it looks 'bridal'.

I'm not particularly looking forward to it as I know she's going to spend the whole day looking like she's about to cry- she finds these situations so stressful but at the same time, seems to rather enjoy a bit of drama.

Are these services normally just like weddings or are they usually a bit more low-key? My MIL doesn't do low-key.

I do love my ILs, they're essentially nice people, just rather irritating.

Are they being a bit OTT?

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JustKeepSwimming · 30/01/2009 07:01

Never been to a renewal service so don't know what they might be like but sounds like she is using the chance to go OTT on purpose. presumably they have more money now than when they got married?
And can almost 'replay' the event for their DC/DILs, etc.

Might be kind of fun maybe....

BlueCowBackToWondering · 30/01/2009 07:10

but if I were expecting a large number of people for whatever occasion, I'd be feeling 'completely frantic' and offers of help from family members would be very welcome...

Thrifty · 30/01/2009 07:17

How lovely that they've been together for 40 years and that they still love each other enough to want to renew their vows. Of course she's getting stressed, organising any event is hard work, and they want to make sure everything goes to plan and everyone is happy, then maybe she might be able to relax a little and enjoy her special day.
so yes yabu, and maybe you could ask her what you could do help? If you don't want to help, then at least go and enjoy the day, which is what they want from their guests

Olifin · 30/01/2009 07:27

I have offered help and OH has done lots to help them with the organisation.

This was only intended as a light-hearted post, really.

Actually, I shouldn't have posted. Thanks for your thoughts.

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