To hope this kid doesn't join our class?

[SweetAudrina]

Last year I joined a kung fu class with DS. We've been training hard(ish) ever since. BUT, now another boy from DS's school has decided he might join. This lad just rips the mick out of everything and everyone. He messes around constantly (family say its ADHD) and constantly disrupts things to get attention. I just know that if he joins our club, I will no longer be able to concentrate, I will feel embarrassed, he WILL laugh and will probably take the mick out of DS because of me and his parents will probably stay with him to watch the class who are also the type to laugh and spread it around how ridiculous I looked.
I know it sounds stupid but it's really putting me off going and DS hasn't seemed to want to go lately either which is unlike him.

I feel a bit guilty saying I hope he doesn't join as I know he has as much right as anyone but would anyone else feel a bit anxious about it or am I being ridiculous?

Hard to say - it might be the making of him. But you are a grown up! And why would his parents come and take the p**S? I understand why you might be a bit worried on ds's behalf, but I think you shoud wait and see what happens before getting stressed about it.

Relax about it he may not join, he may behave really well if he does. Life is a bit short to build up trivial things like this.

No You're not I had the school bully turn up at a drama class i'd spent three years finding and researching, luckily they have no staying power at all at anything, couldn't really afford it either but when they left told everyone how crap the class was and what a waste of time and money

Don't worry about it, you and your DS are enjoying the class. Even if they do laugh and take the mickey, who is going to look more foolish, you or them?

Martial arts instructors are quite strict IME. I'm sure it'll be fine.

Yup, second that.

My son does Tae kwon Do. There is another boy who is a little prone to fool around, and the instructor is quick to nip it in the bud by saying stuff like "Ok, if you are not up for practicing today, find your shoes and go home".

don't let your mother join!

seriously, you are worrying about something not under your control

if you don't like it, find another class (and lighten up)

it may help him as if he has adhd which could be true cant say all parents are blaming it on that as he well may have i twould explain his behavior

it could be a good outlet for him to let off his steam and the discipline following too

i know many doctors who have got adhd sufferers to join said classes for that reason of having somewhere to let it all out and has helped them a lot

Yeah, let's keep excluding the kid with SNs

I can understand your fears, but a martial arts class is a completely different environment to school. There's also the fact that you and your DS are established members, and he'll be the newbie not knowing what to do.

I'm guessing he'll be a different person than he is at school.

Two things will happen.

It won't be for him and he will leave. To save face he will say the class was crap.

It will be the making of him and he will experience being good at something for the first time in his life.

Neither is the end of the world for you personally.

Hmm

lets see

YABU

lots of kids with sn behaviour problems benefit from martial arts classes

yiou dont know he will behave badly

the 'his aprents say' was a snide version of 'I dont beleive he has adhd and I think its an excuse' (fgs have the balls to say it)

The amrtial arts instructor has the job of soreting this, you could post in 6 weeks IABU to think the instructor should be able to manage this and I would say YANBU

But today YABU

It may be just what the lad needs. My DS did Tae kwon do. (never remember how to spell it). The teacher was a black belt.The DCs had the greatest respect for him-always called him sir and never messed around. On the law of averages there must have been some generally disruptive DCs in the class.

yabu

YABU. He has ecery right to join the class if he wants to. It actually might help him.

Every right!.

Well, despite the foregoing, YANBU to hope it - your hopes are in your head and as long as you don't act on it in any way it will not affect this boy - but I agree that you are more likely to find that your fears are unfounded if he does join - and of course it might be the making of him, which could only be good.

Why will you feel embarrassed? Perhaps you need to work on what it is that makes you think you look ridiculous and why you care that this boy and his parents might think it, too.

It may be something for him to focus on.You can't deny him that surely?I think you are BU.

YABU. You need to get over yourself, and hey, he may love it, it may increase his confidence and maybe it will improve other areas of his life (ie school). It may even have been suggested to him by one of his HCPs.

I'm a little confused, OP. You start off by saying that you think the boy might disrupt things but most of your post seems to be about you feeling embarrassed.

You seem to be blaming him for your ds not wanting to go to the class lately, but according to your post the other boy hasn't even been yet. You are just worried that he might.

It sounds to me as though the real issues are that:

1. Your ds is no longer so keen on going and you are looking for a reason for this

2. You would feel embarrassed if someone who knew you joined the club.

It's nothing to do with the boy's behaviour really, is it?

yabvu and childish!grow up!.how old is this child?

id suggest learning more about adhd then think about how hard it must be to put up with attitudes of others(like yours).