...to only pay for the classes i attend when I told the woman in ADVANCE i wouldnt be coming to one...

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I take DD to some activity classes in our village - she gets bored easily....

one of the classes isnt great but it gets us out the house. When I signed up I'd already missed one and told her i would not be able to attend last week's as i had commitments... yet today she came up to me wanting payment even for the class i'd told her i wouldnt be able to attend. so she's trying to make out I'm being unreasonable for not wanting to pay for the other class. i think in this economic climate she should be grateful for "bums on seats" even some of the weeks and charge accordingly.

depends on how much notice you gave......lots of classes like this demand four weeks notice on non attendance.

If the fees are per course not per class then you should pay. If you wanted a discount you should have asked up front!

So YABU - IMhumbleO!

but the woman has to pay for the venue surely ? I think this is quite normal..you pay for a term or something and if you can't/don't come then that's it.

Didn't she say when you joined? Do you pay as you go? I think it's quite normal to expect people to make a commitment - either a term or often blocks of 4. But she should be clear about what her terms are, I think.

If you want to keep going, it would probably be a good idea to pay her this time and then be clear on what the rules are going forward.

Most classes we pay for a "term" or whatever. I think it would be fair to expect that you dont pay for the ones before you joined part way in, but after that I would expect to pay even if you let her know you are not coming - we often say if we know we are not going to something just out of courtesy but we dont expect a refund. She should have been clear about her terms though - some things are pay as you go/pay for what you use but many things arent.

If its not PAYG then YABU - she cant fill out the class for that one day because you have already filled that place.

If it is PAYG then YANBU

We mostly pay per term too.

Agree with the other posters. DD does a few activities which are paid by the term and we have to pay whether or not she attends all the sessions. One of the classes allows us to swap to another day from time to time. Maybe ask if you can do that if she runs something at another venue?

if it is not great and you feel like you are doing her a favour by going, why are you bothering? if she has paid her fee to hire the hall, and is relying on having people paying in full, and it is termly payments, then YABU

you should not have to pay for the class that happened before you paid up though

ok forgive me i'm a novice mum- whenever i';ve done classes like yoga I've never been expected to pay for those I dont attend and there have always been the multiple options re payment. I'm clearly not as good at motherhooding as other stuff so i'll get off this thread.

why would you say that paying for a class is a reflection on your skills as a mother? It is to do with your uynderstanding of charging structures not routines, meals and playtime! They are seperate and distinct.

You asked, we answered, don't get defensive or self-doubting just because we disaggreed! (It happens a lot here, I have lost count of the number of threads when I would have laid money on the outcome and been wrong, wrong wrong )

Ohh, I like a good flounce!

it's nothing to do with your skills as a a mother !! don;t stress.. as you can see
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this is a topic where people lurve to get all judgey pants !

There's no need to chuck your teddy! I'd paid for my yoga course and didn't get a penny back even though I gave 4 weeks notice I wouldn't be able to take part as I'd had an injury (broke my wrist). Most classes are either run as a course or a batch and so the venue is hired, heated, etc., and that still has to be paid for each week. How can people run classes if they don't know from week to week whether they'll be able to pay for the costs?

Well you did ask AIBU - and everyone has told you yes you are!

In answer to your question - I am doing a weekly class with DS at the moment. We were unable to attend the first week so I didn't pay for that, however I then had to miss another class but it wouldn't occur to me to try and get my payment back for that week.
All sorts of unforseen circumstances crop up where children are concerned so you can understand that no-one would be able to run these things if everyone who missed weeks, planned or not, wanted to not be paying.

I think it's pretty harsh to say that she should be grateful for you going, if you don't enjoy it then don't go.

If it is the sort of thing where you pay weekly then YANBU, but if it was a fee for the course then YABU.

Wahwah, sorry for hijack, but if you're reading and you get a chance, would you mind popping back to my Madrid thread in travel and telling me about your trip? Hope it was good! Cheers!