To want DP or just anyone to help with our stupid sleeping arrangements?

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But he won't as he gets to sleep in his own bed every night and it's all up to me.

DS (3) and DD (2) share a room. DS is AS and lately we can't have them share a room as he tries to cuddle up to DD in the night and she doesn't like it so wakes and won't settle.

Since Christmas I have slept in my own bed only once. It's been happening that DP takes DD to bed with him and he reads until she falls asleep, I sleep in her toddler bed next to DS , who wants to have a hand to hold in the night.

I can't see any solution to this, other than us putting the toddler beds in the loft and getting a double futon or something so I can at least get a good nights sleep when I'm in with DS.

But that seems to be an awful thing for my relationship with DP. Is anyone in a similar situation, or has been and worked out a solution? Going to bed is something I dread rather than look forward too as it's so difficult.

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maybe this is very prudeish of me, but i dont think children should sleep in a double/king bed as not right

fine for odd stay at relatives but not every night

just doesnt seem right

aibu?

Why not? They are 3 and 2, they both need comfort to sleep properly, I don't see the problem in solving the issue by letting them sleep together.

Years ago the whole family would share a bed.

we are not years ago now

children need their own bed - but thats just me

plus dont think dd wants to share, she doesnt want to be woken up and cuddled by big brother

i think its fine for children to share bed theres nothing wrong in it just innocence of 2 siblings cuddling at night they are so small but preferably get 2 singles pushed together as they will probably grow out of it so saves money having to replace beds again

why is it "not right" for 2 and 3yo sibs to share a bed?? would you not let them share a bath either?

I did ask if they both like to sleep together. Obviously if they don't then it wouldn't work but I disagree they need their own bed. Children need somewhere safe and comforting to sleep. If that is with their sibling then so be it.

DS (3) and DD (2) share a room. DS is AS and lately we can't have them share a room as he tries to cuddle up to DD in the night and she doesn't like it so wakes and won't settle

the op did say dd didnt like it, but that she liked company

its prob just me - but i think children should sleep alone in their singles beds and not share a double

eventually they will have to be spilt up so best not to start it - but thats just my opinion - no one has to agree with it

but happy for them to share a bath and get naked

but again as they get older, sure they will want some privacy

Ah, I did that terrible thing of skim-reading the OP.

Really don't think in a situation where both were happy with it it would be an issue though, and as for getting used to it, when would they really have to stop? When society decided it was 'not right' or when they were ready (therefore have no problems stopping)?

when would they really have to stop? When society decided it was 'not right' or when they were ready (therefore have no problems stopping)?

as children get older they do tend to explore their sexuality, even if they dont really know what they are doing

kids at school can be very cruel over many things fat kids, naff clothes etc, so sure some would comment on sharing a bed, maybe that is society, maybe sillymindness

Perhaps you could pop a toddler bed next to your own bed and let him sleep in there for a while, so he knows you're there, but learns to settle in his own space, then when he's sleeping without holding hands (sweet btw!) youcould transfer him back?

This possibly is a rubbish suggestion but just trying to think of a way for you to be in your own bed AND him be in his?? Toddler beds will murder your back after a while!

Good luck anyway.

so just curious here BHMF, its ok for them to be in a bath together but not in the same bed????

errr ok

bath you are there and kids awake and know what they are doing, and its only 15mins or so

asleep you relax and dont know what you are doing

children explore theirselves, my 3yr has be known to have hands down trousers, saying my willy is hard

guess i just want to make sure nothing happene

ive been known to share a bed with my bf on a girls night out, and wake up to me with my arm round her -thinking im with dh

but as i said thats just my opinion - no one has to agree with me that children shouldnt share beds with siblings every night

have completly got off the OP topic

Surely that's because you are used to sharing a bed with your DH though?

As long as you teach children that their private areas are private there should eb no worry, unless of course you are planning on never ever leaving them alone together...

course they play together alone

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh - i dont know - as i said must be the prude in me - justdoesnt seem right

will debate later

but must go to the bank before i pick up from nursery