...to refuse to make arrangements with someone who constantly cancels, even if DD will be dissapointed?

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DD has a new best friend at school (she's in reception). At her request I made arrangements for a playdate with her new friend for last week. Friend's mum cancelled on the day because she'd made a last minute (non-urgent)appointment for one of her kids. We rescheduled for this week. Now she cancels one day in advance as she will be called away for work. We have rescheduled for next week.

Now I'm thinking of making other plans for that day instead because I'm worried she will cancel again and I will be livid. Yes, this is definitely my hot button - DD was a bit dissapointed, but then forgot about it.

I don't think this is the mum's way of saying she doesnt like me or DD. I just think she's busy and disorganised and isnt particularly sensitive to other people's feelings or to social niceties.

How does one deal with people like this? I find it immensely frustrating, esp as we don't have a lot of time in the week for playdates and can't easily make other plans at short notice. Should I just chill, or tell DD there will be no playdates with her new friend?

Could you ask the mum when the best day would be for her and explain that DD was upset that her mate could not come round?

Don`t cancel it give her another chance

If she does cancel again don`t bother again

I would have a little chat and confirm that it is definitely a go
And have a fun backup plan
She couldn't help having to work away and if she's busy then she prob just had to do what she had to do.

I think that she probably sees playdates in a more casual way than you do.

If you dont have time in your week to have a cancelled playdate then dont arrange any more with her, but her reasons for cancelling seem reasonable to me.
I work part time, and so my non-working days do tend to get booked up with playdates, so its quite a relief to have a day off if someone does have to cancel.