Is it too much to ask for a bit of sympathy?

[loveshack]

Woke up this morning feeling sick and dizzy.

Took the children to school and when I got home was sick and have been dashing to the toilet most of the day.
Just feel really achy and out of sorts.

Arranged someone to collect children form school for me.

Just e mailed DH to tell him and ask if he would get home straight away tonight as he sometimes stops off for a drink on the way home.

He e mails me back with "sick" in the e mail heading and replies

"what's wrong with you?"

Know I know him and from that I take it he is not happy.

Whenever I don't feel well he always gets annoyed and questions it.
Can't I just be ill without him questioning it.

I know I won't get any sympathy but he makes me feel guilty for feeling ill.

Usually it's "oh I did'nt feel well earlier ethier"

Puke on him when he comes through the door!

I felt like this most of the weekend so you deserve lots of sympathy. Leave piles of puke for him to see when he gets home so that he can see you are def ill. Sending lots of sympathy your way.

e-mail back with

subject heading: do you want a fucking sick note?

i'm not an employee dipshit, i am ill, your kids need a parent - and i can't be it today

so be home.

PS. i dont answer to you honey, the kids have two parents -you are one of them - its your turn.

don't fucking qwuestion me again.

Custardo

what Custardo said!

Thanks.

Just redaing through the lines I know he is being sarcastic as he usually jusy replies to my e mails and I had put "Hi"
He typed in "sick" as the subject so was trying to be funny!!!

He is probaby annoyed because I have asked him to come straight home and he was going to go for a drink after work.

Well time will tell if he comes home straight away,not holding my breath.

Ace!! That's eeexcellent! (Custardos post, I mean).

I'd email him bac "just puked again, perhaps you'll have to come home from work early"

By default the fact he doesn't will counter act the lack of drinks!

x posts,love that custardo,if only I was brave enough.

He would probably stay out on purpose if I sent that.
That's how his mind works.

I would'nt mind so much but have never asked anyone to pick the children up for me before.

I hear you, DH is like this. If I am sick (which unfortunately is too often), he says stuff like 'oh for fucks sake, not again' or 'why aren't you going into work' while my face is all puffed up and I cannot speak for such a sore throat. He questions it too. Because he does not get sick, it means I should not either.

I personally think Custardo's answer is the way to go!

Have just replied to his
"what's wrong with you?" with a detailed report.

DH hardly ever takes time of work but comes home complaining how ill he has felt all day ,although strangely still stops off at the pub after work.
Must be medicinal.

Looks like I will be in for the spanish inqusution when he gets in tonight.

herbietea-your DH sounds wonderful.
Can't imagine DH rushing home like that.

Hope you feel better soon.

JUst e mailed DH to ask if he was annoyed with me and put love ...... x

He replied

"No ,why should I be annoyed with you?"
"See you later"

No asking how I was now or what time he would be home.

Does'nt give much away my DH.

loveshack go to bed and don't get out of bed and when he asks when you are getting up tell you don't know. I think he might be of the mindset that if you are up you are well enough to 'help' do the tea etc' So gather all you need to survive in bed for a few hours and don't come down until kids are in bed. You need to think of yourself for only one day and then you'll more able to cope tommorrow. good luck

herbietea-well as long as you prepared dinner beforehand!!

DH will have to fend for himself tonight,will get the children something before he comes in.
They will be happy with something on toast.

My children are usually full of beans and argumentative when they get in from school hence wanting DH to get home as soon as he can.

mamas12-sounds like a good idea in theory but know the children will be in and out jumping on the bed and DH will be asking where the pyjamas are etc.

Love it custardo. As for the OP - YANBU. I was sick all last weekend and my (usually wonderful/supportive) DH kept sighing irritably and snipping at the kids. When I asked what was wrong he barked 'I just want to sit down for 5 minutes'. When I pointed out that he was only doing what I do every weekend we proceeded to have a row which I conceded (because I was too ill to care). Later, when I was bitching about it to my brother (older father of 3) he said men can't stand it when their wives are ill and they do find it an irritation. Another mum who sympathised with me said that her DH is the same and she'd learnt that if she is only a little bit ill she deliberately stays in bed to avoid the whole huffing and puffing from DH.

fairynufff-sounds like a common problem with us mothers.

Seems like our DH's don't like the idea of being left with the childcare.

My DH still is'nt home