to be annoyed at my dh I feel a bit desperate posting in here of all places!

[Megglevache]

We went to a cafe for brunch this morning one that we hadn't been to since we had children.

The gist is there was a table of young lads causing a disturbance whilstling really loud and being cheeky about the female staff we were about to sit down a few tables away when dh decided to stare at them in an attempt to make them stop. It ended up with all four of them swearing and having a go at dh at this point, threatening all sorts I put my coat on ready to go and asked my dh to stop, of course typically everyone in the cafe was looking at the floor not helping dh at all.

I was left feeling really frightened and vulnerabl , I can stand up for myself but it was because I had my children with me and didn't want them to see their father arguing (or possibly much worse) I am so angry with him for putting us all in that position for no reason)

The lads left after much racial abuse and name calling (only then did two men come out of the kitchen and ask us if we were ok)the lads were hanging around outside and on mobile phones(I was crapping myself that we were going to get ambushed on the way out and dh knifed for his part)

After about 45 mins they left and I legged it to the car first with the children.

Dh is adamant that he did the right thing and I still am not. Surely he was an idiot to put us in that position given that only 6 months ago his best friend's child was beaten at the local park by 30 lads (5 mins away from this cafe) and pronounced dead at the scene (he was revived by paramedics)He says that if someone doesn;t stand up to these idiots that they will continue to think that they can get away with it.

It is so out of character for him I cannot quite believe it.

Sorry a bit of a rant. To be perfectly honest I think I am posting for a completely unbiased view as I'm so angry at him that it makes me dig my heels in even more.

WIBU?

Thanks for your opinions. It's been afew days and I'm over it, I think.

Of course I was angry at the yobs more than I was at my husband but we can all be rather unpredictable when we are backed into a corner(as was I).I still think he should have assessed the risk before acting the way he did.

There were two men in the kitchen who could quite easily have gone out and calmed down the situation I think they would have had more authority than a paying customer, Interesting how they only came out when the guys had left the building .

I still think that we should have gone and he shouldn't have put us in that situation. I am proud of him for being a good honourable man, I am glad my children have such a great guy for a dad.