Really would like opinions as in RL all my friends tell me I'm doing the right thing!
All my life my father has had a bad temper, or moody, would throw tantrums most of which aimed at my brother
I grew up ignoring his tantrums and wishing my brother would stop doing and saying things to start him off.
At my graduation he threw a tantrum because the camera wouldn't work (infront of my friend and her family) and basically blamed my mother, who the spent £70 on prof photos in which he has a big huffy face!
At my wedding he threw a tantrum with the video guy
When dd1 was born he threw a tantrum at my mum in delivery ward in front of my MIL
When ds was getting christened I knew he was in bad mood but I just ignored him
Have found out since he was v anoyed because I did not ask my brother to be a god parent
There are a number of things he has done over the past years to embarrass or upset me but the final straw came when dd2 was born
We could not think of a name and my mother suggested a name, which I then told my dh, who then added his mums name as a second
(which go beautifully together)
My mum and dad came to hosp I told them the name and he started huffing and puffing he didn't like the 2nd name, why had we not called her after my mum!
He left the hosp and I burst into tears determined he was not going to spoil another family occassion
I told my mother I would not be back in their house until he apologised and neither would the kids
He told my mother I was not to ring or come near their house
He refused to apologise and says he has done nothing wrong, he says I'm evil and cruel for stopping him from seeing his grandchildren
I have never stopped him from coming to my house my dh actually invited him as I'm heart broken but he refused
2years later I am very angry and my relationship with my mother is going down hill because she refuses to stand up to him