To want to approach ExP and his girlfriend about this????

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Myself and ExP have a 9yr DS together. I have a 3 yr old DD and he has a 2 yr DD.

My DS came home a few months ago and asked me why my DD and his dad's DD have never met and why aren't they allowed to play together. I replied that they are both still quite little but if he wanted me to ask his dad about it I would, he said he would ask his dad.

Anyway, DS forgot to ask his dad and asked me the question again yesterday.

ExP's girlfriend hates me. I don't hate her but in her eyes I am obviously the "evil ex"!!

Anyway AIBU to want to ask my Ex and his girlfriend if our DDs can meet each other and perhaps play together, for the sake of our DS really???

I would encourage it TBH but I know his girlfriend will see it differently and won't welcome the question......

What do you think??

I dont think your being unreasonable but I wouldn't think she was being unreasonable if she said no either.

I think it would be lovely if she could say yes for your DS' sake but again she in within her rights to say no.

I would ask your ex since he is the parent in common.

I will ask exP about it I think.

I don't think its unreasonable for your DS to want both his sisters there to play together but then its all about whether or not your ExP agrees to it

would be nice for him but may not happen - could your ExP not bring his DD round when he visits your DS and you can see if the girls get on well?

Well ExP can't move for his girlfriend. She doesn't let him out of her sight so I guess everything needs to be 'authorised' by her.

When Ex sees DS he just drives outside my house, picks up DS (with girlfriend of course) and drives away until he drops him off later that day.

I have to ring Ex when he's at work or he won't talk to me properly because his girlfriend is within listening distance.

I just feel sorry for DS because he wants his sisters to know each other

does DS have a birthday or something coming up soon that you could have a family tea and invite ExP and new partner plus their DD?

maybe she just needs one time in your company to get over whatever it is thats bothering her?

Well my DD has a birthday party close to where Ex and his girlfriend live and I will be taking DS along too. Should I suggest them bringing their DD to play with DS and then our DDs could meet?

The birthday party is in one of these big play centre places.......

a gentle suggestion with no adgenda might be nice but don't be offended if she says no - just keep trying in a non pushy way and she may come to realise that you're genuine

The birthday sounds like an ideal situation. By doing this you are being the better person, the more mature and taking the moral high ground - if the girlfriend vetoes it then more fool her