To lock DP in his shed?

[jennieflower]

OK so the background story.

We have 2 children, DD aged 6, DS aged 4 months. He promised to quit smoking when we were expecting DD and managed to stop for about 3 months. Since then he's been promising to quit one day but never actually done anything about it.

He faithfully promised me he'd quit again by the time DS was born, and did so for about 2 months, he started up about a month before he was born and actually went for a half hour fag break when I was in labour, when he finally got back I was fully dilated and ready to push

He gave up again 3 weeks ago, I'm really supportive and give him lots of encouragement, DD is really aware of the dangers of smoking and begs him to stop, she even gave him a nicotine patch when he got up this morning.

So a little while ago he was acting suspiciously, he went out to the garden shed and I sneaked out and caught him having a fag. I was so angry I just locked the door behind him.

He's been out there for about 40 minutes, OK I know IABU but short of throwing him out what else can I do?

Ahem, if a man had done this to a woman wouldn't we be telling her to report it to the police?

I agree haleyd, the op is so out of order.

he emptied tobacco on ground not her though. and wasnt he lying about the smoking??

yup

Its a addiction. He's not doing it for fun.

Shall I post him a photo of my mother who has been in hospital since December and had her leg amputated, smoked 30/40 a day, might make him think.

Has the OP changed names during the course of this thread, or have I gone mad?

I have gone mad - ignore me.

YABVU!!

I agree with mmeLindt and harley

He won't stop for you, or anyone else for that matter! He has to stop for himself because he wants to.

I have been trying to stop for the past few weeks (my choice) and if you have never smoked, you have no idea of how hard it is. No amount of threats or emotional blackmail will help him to stop so you might as well forget that. Luckily I have a supportive and understanding DH who would never, ever treat me like you treat your DH. The urge to smoke is absolutely overwhelming when you are trying to stop.

Maybe you cold try supporting him 100% of the time instead of treating him like a dog when he fails.

kimi, i doubt very much it would make him think
we all know this happens
theres horror pictures all over cigarette packets
still hasnt made me stop
i am trying to stop again from monday, but the people around me would be supportive, they sure as hell wouldnt be sabotaging my cigarettes, or locking me anywhere if i had a slip up

You know you're being unreasonable, right...? The worst thing is though you've actually made yourself look like a madwoman with your ketchup, lockings in and tobacco scattering, when in fact you have a perfectly valid point. I would stay silent on the subject for a few days. This will make him suspicious, bring up the topic and you can have a reasonable conversation about it.

I agree that it would be best for everyone if he were not to smoke, I just don't think that your tactics are likely to get you anywhere.

My DH would have been furious if I had done this. If your DH was laughing then fine, you know him well, you must have known how he is likely to react.