To be really embarrassed about this?!

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Walking in to my works canteen a 50 year old male colleague booms out 'My aren't we looking pregnant today?!' (I am 5 months) I touched my bump and said 'Yes its popped out a bit today' he leered at my chest and said 'Ha ha I wasn't talking about your stomach'
I went bright red (people all looked and I felt like a fool) and said 'You should not make personal remarks like that' he said 'oh well your hair looks nice ha ha ha'
I mentioned it to my boss as it was soooo rude and I thought it should be noted. My boss laughed and said 'well don't wear low cut dresses then'
I wore a polo neck the next day and my boss said 'There thats much better'
I ended up feeling like I asked for it and now I am the one in the wrong! My chest is an f cup and its so hard keeping them under control but surely I should not have to wear polo tops.........?

I like hecate's/madamdeathstare's retorts, by the way.

Thanks I am going to wear what the hell I like from now on and if I get any more I will take it formally out of principle. I was genuinely thinking I was out of order and partly to blame for my choice of dress.
How mental that I have been sat here wondering if I would get in to trouble if I wear dresses that show some cleavage.

definitely complain

if there is a next time you could say something like

i see your brain is still permanently grafted below your waist then

or i will be sure to pass on your observations to my h, he is meeting me for lunch

Start carrying a note-book and pen around with you.

If it happens again (either the original guy or the boss), say nothing.

Get out your pen, and slowly and deliberately start writing.

If you really want to make them sweat, ask them to repeat what they just said more slowly, as you didn't catch the end and you want to make sure you've made an accurate note.

If they ask what you're writing it down for, just airily say "oh, just in case" or similar.

Oh, and loudly check the date and time with another colleague, and ask them to confirm that they heard what was said.

If they're a mate, get them to sign your note.

Brilliant, BooBoo!

Why thank you.

Trick is not to let them see you're upset, imo. Then they know they can get under your skin.

Hi. Sorry you were upset but this is out of order and you have every right to be angry. However, I work in HR and think the best approach is Booboo's. This could nip it in the bud without having to make a complaint but you also have a record of the incident(s) if they continue and you have to.

Honestly, if you get into the whole formal complaint thing, you will end up a basket case. This is from first hand experience.

JamesAndTheGiantBanana great suggestion cry on a male friend shoulder for added effect. I had some great male pals at work that really looked after me and would think if their wife/partner treated it that way.
Booboobedoo Another really great idea I want to use them now just for fun but it's unlikely as I work in a very PC work place.