or was my friend a bit rude?

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Went out with my friend at the weekend for her birthday.

She doesn't have DC. She always reminds me that I'm her 'party' friend who I can be myself and not jsut a Mummy with. Well, I kind of get her sentiment so that's ok.

But sometimes I feel as though she expects me to actually pretend I'm not a mother, or at least doesn't display any understanding for my situation.

e.g. she told me off for 'not making an effort' with my appearance. Actually, I tried as hard as I could but none of my old clothes fit because of the baby weight and I didn't really need to be made to feel more shit about it.

She stayed over and (ok she'd had a drink, but still) told me the house is a mess and I should have made more of an effort to clean as I had a guest.

While I think she's right on both counts I didn't look a complete state and neither did the house. I also thought we were good enough friends for me not to need to scrub my house before she comes over.

Crikey, if she is a friend I would hate to meet your enemy!

Tis one think to think such things, but to actually say them out loud, especially the bit about your appearance..

I would seriously ditch said friend prompto...

Why don't you ask her to look after your dc's for a day and while she's at it,to clean the house till spotless and to be all dressed up, in full make-up and ready to go out by the time you come home? See how she manages then! I have an aunt like this, she criticises my Mum's clothes and appearance and about the state of her house. Makes me

Why would she care how you dress? How did it affect her night out? I would have been tempted to say "But I did make an effort! I decided against the manky tracky bottoms and the snot-encrusted vest"

As for the house- unless she was a paying guest, she should just put up and shut up!

She sounds like a right cow. Any one who makes you feel rubbish, as she did, is not a friend. Distance yourself, if you can't drop her.

What a cow! I hope there is some underlying reason for this but she doesn't sound like a true friend at all.

It sounds to me like you did make an effort. four inch heels! Im impressed! She sounds like the sort of friend you can do without. Real friends wouldnt care about all that superficial crap, they would just be glad to be spending time with you. I went out with my wellies on a couple of months ago as we had a spontaneous night out and i wasnt prepared. it wasnt an issue for anybody, even the friends that were glam. You don't need friends like that at all. friends are supposed to enhance your life as im sure you do theirs.

I think she's a cow and there might be something in that idea that there's a little jealousy at work. Maybe she'd secretly love to have kids/have a dp or dh (if you have one)?

YANBU. That is very rude.

She sounds like a absolute pillock. Just try to take it with a pinch of salt, she has no clue, just think she has no idea what will come her way, and when it does, you get your ass round there sharpish, looking gorg and say, "bloody hell you could have tried", just be patient your time will come.

And I know how hard it is to find yourself after you have dc, especially if all around you are single and have none, its hard, but you will get back to you soon enough, just be patient, and laugh at your friend, she really is an ignorant girl.