AIBU not to invite children to a party just because DS was invited to theirs?

[mylifemykids]

I really wont be offended with the replies to this but I'm a bit stuck with what to do!

DS is 4 in a few weeks. We can't afford a big softplay/hall with bouncy castle type party so are having one at home. This means we can only invite 8 or so children from his nursery class. I'm really torn as to whether to invite 2 children who invited DS to their parties - the reason being DS (and I) had no idea who these children were until we got to the party! The parties were big parties and I think most of the class were invited.

So, do I invite them or not? It would mean 2 of DS's friends he actually knows and plays with wont be able to come but is it just polite to invite the ones who invited him?!

Does that even make sense?!!

No. Just invite who you want to,

Some people have big parties, some people have small parties ,some people have no party at all.As long as you are not just excluding 1 or 2 from his class ,i think that's fine

there has to be a ratio equality - i think 8 is fairly high actually.

A small party shouldn't be more than 4 or 5. Otherwise it becomes a form of social elitism in schools.

The non moldies amongst you, you must know how that feels

I agree Kateistar, it's not right to invite almost the whole class! That sucks too.

Do whatever you like. The whole thing has got ridiculous.

When i was a kid you accepted that you got to some parties but not others. Now they expect to go to all of them.

The whole party bag fiasco drives me crazy too. We recently went to a party for a 3 year old and honestly my dc went home with so much crap - I swear it was worth 3 times more than the present we brought. I know the lovely mum was only doing it out of kindness etc, but you know the term diminishing returns? I mean, where does it end?

Another party thread

Invite who you like - you can only do whole class party if you've got the space and £££.