to be fecking FURIOUS with this woman in the post office...? (bit long, sorry)

[henrys7thwife]

Was standing in a (very long) queue for the post office earlier this morning with my 7-month-old in tow. He needed a sleep and we were going straight back home after the post office so I left his coat on him knowing I didn't want to wake him up to re-dress him as that would've been a nightmare. Took him out of the cosytoes, took off his hat, and unzipped the coat so he didn't get too warm.

Lately he loves being in pushchair but hates when it stops, and was also tired, so started to cry quite loudly. Post office was very full and I gave sympathetic looks to others in the queue as I tried to push him back & forth in pram. A woman in front of me took one look at us and started SCREAMING at me very loudly. "OH MY GOD! THAT BABY IS SO HOT! His face is so red, look at him. He's too hot, take him out of there."

To which I replied, rather calmly I think, that he was not hot, his face was red because he was screaming with effort and that he does not like being in the pushchair and wants out. Also he is very sleepy so I will NOT take him out just because others don't like him crying. She then tried to recruit other people in the queue to say that I should take him out because he was hot and distressed. I said, "I AM HIS MOTHER, I think I know what he needs." She said, "Yes well, he is still hot and he will keep crying because he's too hot. That poor baby."

On cue, DS fell asleep after what had to have been in their eyes an agonising 5 mins. GRRRRRRRRRRRR Have been seething over this all day. AIBU?

No you are not being unreasonable

I often see over heated babies though adn feel for them.

no you are not being unreasonable
she should have kept her nose out

I just smile and say FUCK OFF these days, being nice gets you nowhere you may as well enjoy being rude to these people

You will always get people who think they know how to mother a child better than it's own mother...
You will always get people who are just plain odd

i'm thinking that post office lady was a bit of both

let it go..it's not worth the head space. You were right...she was clearly wrong

Seymour, I occasionally see them but he was not overheated and I made a point of it. He turns red when he is angry/cries and I made a point of feeling him to make sure he was okay. I'm sure hearing Mummy have words with a stranger didn't make him feel any better either

LOL OH I'll remember that next time.

SO why did you do it then?

Because I am not a wet noodle.

if the woman was so worried, why didn't she let you go ahead of her in the queue?

YANBU.

Honestly 7th it's taken me 3 children to learn how to do it quietly without a) the child hearing but b) loud enough that they hear it, the look on their faces is priceless.

When I got to the brooding stage abotu domestic squabbles i KNEW it was time to go to work.

..... And just maybe the owners of the P O should have stepped in, moved you to the front of the queue, served you and then you could have gone home in peace.

Also maybe the lady in front should have let you go in front so that you could get on and out of a very warm P O.

You are not being unreasonable.

YANBU but some people (including me) can't BEAR seeing a crying baby not being picked up - it's just a basic instinct thing

It makes me want to throttle the mother and abscond with the baby

which would have been a worse course of action

Jeez. Some people can't keep out! YANBU. I took DS to the doctors when he was tiny. A woman in the reception told me to take his socks off as he was so hot (?! ) It was bloody January! I think I'll adopt OHBollox's technique of smile and 'fuck off' from now on, that made me LOL!

YANBU, you should have said that it is a good job you didn't ask her for her advice.

Fair enough if she wanted to quietly suggest 'maybe he is a bit hot' I have had people do that and okay, they are being nosy, but politely. It's people who don't stop that wind me up.

Deep breaths now.

YANBU.

I may have looked at your LO and thought 'he looks a bit hot' BUT being a mum myself I wouldve realised that you wouldnt want to strip him off just only to have to dress him all up again. And I wouldve smiled sympathetically (although that sometimes winds people up).

I subscribe to OHBollox's method of dealing with these nonkheads.

It either shuts them up or starts an interesting exchange that makes the time just fly by .

Its done now so dont let it bother you any further.

morningpaper - I am obviously missing that basic instinct as my first thought is 'poor mother' and my second thought is 'glad it's not my baby screaming' (as it usually is)!

Yes i agree with MP, when my own babies cried they were frigging annoying, yet others upset me.

YANBU. I had it last december time, I don't like cosey toes so when really cold I use 2 standard blankets folded. Anyway ds was about 4 months and we just walked into shopping centre, he was fast asleep and like you I took off 1 blanket, his hat, his mits and unzipped his coat a little but not too much as I like to be warm when sleeping so do for my ds what I'd like, and a woman came rushing over to me to tell me how hotmy baby looked.
You will always be judged from the minute you have a baby bump though I find and like someone else said, I just either ignore now or tell them where to go.
Don't sweat it now though, these things happen, he's your son and it's nobody elses business how you decide to dress him....

I would get a bit annoyed in the worst case but not FURIOUS.

Honestly, happens so offen. Just use your sense of humour. It really doesn't worth to get furious over it.

Actually, I think she mistook you for someone else - someone who gave a damn what she thought!!!

YANBU

YANBU - some people are so bloody rude!

YANBU. Silly old women in the Post Office queue are to be ignored at all costs.