To feel hurt and irritated by mother's who blow out a party at the last minute?

[ipanemagirl]

ds's (8) bday party recently was at one of those fun places you pay per child and isn't super cheap so we told him he could only have 10. We ended up inviting 4 more (family etc) and 2 cancelled in plenty of time and apologised the week before - that's fine.
But on the day one hour before the party one mother called and said they'd just got up and the child was really over tired and had a bad cold. Late but acceptable.

The one that really irritated was the one that phone me half an hour into the party (12.30 on Sunday) saying 'Oh well we've all just got up and my ds has a bit of a cough so he isn't coming I'm afraid"

I mean so rude and as they care so little why not say no, and I could have invited a child who would have loved it! ?There are a few boys I'd have really liked to ask! So rude.

sorrento well said! we've said to ds, next year we'll do cinema and a pizza with one or maybe two good mates and have a break from the strain of it.

It's lovely to be able to do a party and kids love it but it can be a very expensive pain in the tuckuss!

Okay, great idea. My eldest is nearly 8.

I noticed at her 6th they seemed awfully cynical about pass the parcel already. Maybe we start them too young.

I'll never forget the first and last time I organised a party for ds1. Only ONE child turned up. A few declined in advance, but most just didn't show. Fortunatly, being autistic and - at that time - oblivious to such things he was fine. I, otoh, was heartbroken and furious and I wanted to go into school on the Monday and ^kick those bastard parents round the yard. Because I KNEW why they had treated him so badly and with a total lack of kindness.

So no, YANBU. It bloody hurts!

Oh yes "Known Offenders"

The ones whose dc's/parents wait till the last minute to see if a better opportunity comes up

The 'popular' kids who your dc feel they 'have' to invite who only turn up if feel like it

Cinema & pizza for select few is deffo way to go

PrimulaVeris
"The 'popular' kids who your dc feel they 'have' to invite who only turn up if feel like it"

this boy is totally one of these offenders.

HecateQueenOfGhosts that is so upsetting, we feel it so badly when people are unkind to our children don't we? I'd rather it was to me than ds!

Totally agree. Say or do what you like to me and I'll probably not even notice but I get so hurt when my kids are treated badly. (and have fantasies of bloody revenge )

Hecate -

Hecate exactly the same thing happened to DS2 (who has ADHD) the last party we had for him (7 I think). We roped in his brother and sister to fill some of the gaps but I was furious. It's been special days out with the family or cinema and pizza ever since.

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