AIBU for being V angry with FIL for purposly stopping DS from having his lunch?

[Cheekster]

DS is 6 months, he has always been faddy.He takes his bottle, pureed food fine when at home with me and dh but if anyone speaks to him, distracts him or tries to play with him he refuses to eat or take his bottle. FIL knows this!

BUT, that didnt stop him today from pinching his toes, tickling him, chatting away to him and the rest while I was trying to feed him.
MIL told him to stop, DH made a comment in a joking way to DS something like 'Stop looking at your Grandad' but still he would not stop!

I didnt say anything because I knew if I did I would have exploded as Ive already spoke him previously for this. I explained before how he wont take his bottle unless he can relax and is not distracted. I also told him that health visitors have been worried on 2 occasions for his weight gain being poor and he has had to be monitored so dont want that to happen again. But obviously it didnt sink in.

So anyway, it resulted in us having to come home from their house with a screaming hungry baby and feed him at home. I am so cross about it but DH doesnt seem bothered, says Im over reacting and in future we wont go to their house when he needs feeding. This seems crazy to me!

AIBU, or too pfb?

If he is that hungry he would take it from the milkman!

"If he is that hungry he would take it from the milkman! "

I used to think that too...........until I had a child that would scream for hours rather than be fed by anyone else.......(well 2 of them actually - DS2 didn't give 2 hoots so long as he had food/milk in his stomach it was DS1 and 3 that were the akward buggers)

too pfb, but we've all done something, so don't worry about it. It's stupid to make an issue of it or damage your relationship with FIL, and if this carries on you will damage it, so next time you visit just take ds into another room and feed him there. No fuss.

yes, really too pfb, but I did it myself with dd and for the same weight-gain reasons. Deep breath & relax a bit.

you will be faced with these challenges for the rest of your child's young years always distracted by something but thats fine if there hungry they will eat one meal less will not starve them

my son now at 3.7 will be distracted by anything and everything i remember all the anxieties of having to do things exact timings etc but it goes when you realise they wont fade away and there having fun

you learn to lighten up and stop finding things so annoying i do remember wanting to hunt down anyone whistling at his bed time outside or anyone disturbing his meals etc but you do learn to loosen up slightly

if you need to go out then try setting routine slightly earlier or take ds to another room to eat and explain he wont eat otherwise they'll be fine about it but dont worry yourself