to be hurt and want to say something to dh about his family not bothering to remember our ds 1st birthday!!!

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My pil cut ties with us over something silly years ago. As a result dh doesnt have much to do with his sisters as they seem to side with their mother because shes constantly ill etc and plays the victim very well.

Anyhow his parents have always remembered ds1 birthday even though they dont bother to see him. His sisters however who are in their early twenties dont even send a card not even to dh even though we always do and they expect it themselves.But for ds2 birthday their has been no acknowledgement. I dont really want them in my lives to be honest but feel sad that ds2 hasnt got that extra family iykwim.They are their only gc and this is how they treat them. And now sil is planning a baby and going on about how excited pil are etc and how they want a gs, dh doesnt even seem upset hes happy for his sil but i feel like shes rubbing it in.

No acknowledgement from sil or pil that is.I really shouldnt be surprised as mil hasnt even been around to see ds2 but i feel so hurt still. Sometimes i wish i was married to someone else who had a nice family even though they say you dont marry their family etc but it bloody helps if they are nice people.

am not suprised you feel hurt and sad. Thing is though, you either want them in your life or you don't. If you do, and want the birthday and christmas stuff in the future, can you look at trying to make a proper peace with them? Can you resolve the problem that caused this rift in the first place?

Or, just forget em, and fill your children's lives with other family, friends, neighbours, etc....

We get on really well with our family

DS2 got 4 cards (1 of which was from his big brother) my family all forgot!

I think it is the bane of the second child

but really I would count your blessings that his family arent all over you , by the sounds of it that would be worse.

we no longer see FIL and tbh it's a relief.