to tell exp he can't see the kids untill next sat?

[spookycharlotte121]

He was supposed to have them overnight to night and was due to pick them up at 6.30.

He txt me and told me yet again he cant have them and will have them tomorrow instead. This happens near enough every week, he either changes the plans right at the last minute or doesnt have them at all.

Although ds is only 18 months he knew he was going to his dads and helped me get his bag ready. Sat with his coat on reading a book for his dad to arrive and he didnt.
I feel so sorry for him. Its so unfair.

Im finding this harder and harder to deal with and its happening everyweek.

Would I be out of order to tell him he is not seeing them untill next weekend now. Im sick of constantly being messed about. He has given me some poxy excuse to why he cant have them so Im going to tell him thats fine but he will now have to wait untill his slot next weekend to see them.

This is really beginning to get to me.

YANBU to tell him he will have to wait until next sat

Tell him if he cant stick to his plas then he misses out, end of.

If he is doing this every week though i would avoid telling the dc he is coming, just to avoid their disappointment

plans

Your poor liottle son.
What a tragic image.
(And what a knob.What was his excuse?)

his gf "feels like shit" (again) and he has blurred vision.

FFS
And as if you get to stop your parenting if you 'feel like shit'. I want to throttle stupid feckless irresponsible peopel like this. he isn't worthy of the term father. Tell him to fuck off.

YANBU SC... just text him, as you are both feeling unwell I think it would be a good idea for ds to see you next week.

I know you want to maintain the contact (from previous thread) but sometimes it can do more harm than good for kids. Nothing worse than learning to expect disappointment as they get older.

I think you may have to accept that they will have a very poor relationship with their father and that if they see less of him it is not such a bad thing.

sorry.

I would agree.
The most important lesson is to put their children's priorities above their own.
If they can't then bollocks to them.

I called him and said he had been a coward to txt me becuase he normally calls me and it was obvious he knew i was going to be angry so he didnt call. He got angry and hung up. He didnt sound at all ill.
When Im ill I have no choice but to get on with it. he has never once offered to help me out and let me get some rest but got forbid he gets a sniffle the whole world must stand still.
It really winds me up. Ds is such a special little boy, he idolises his dad and he gets let down time after time.
Dd is only 7 months so doesnt understand but im sure the tension for it all gets to her.

Sometimes I just wish he would give up all together. the dc's deserve to be treated better.

God, Spooky, poor you.You deal with two such tiny children alone while he indulges himself?

what a dickhead.
TBH I am half thinking that you should let them see him tomorrow (rather than him see them - HE doesn't deserves it) because that way they get to see him, and that is what is actually important, not how you feel.
but again, what a dickhead.
You wouldn't be unreasonable in telling him no.
Sorry you are dealing with this.