to be fed up at tidying away the same things again and again and again?

[SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore]

day 1 - put highchair and toys away, take out pots and lager cans/bottles, fill washer and put washed load in dryer

Come home from work - toys back out, highchair back in living room with remnants of dinner still on/around it, dd1 and DH's dinner plates still on table, lager cans back on floor

day 2 - repeat day one

day 3 - repeat days one and two

day 4 - I think you see where I am going with this?

And apparently the house is a mess because I don't do anything.

So IABU to think that I find it much easier to keep things tidy if he could leave the room in the state he found it and not just get everything out and leave it for me to do?

Sorry are you me?? I seem to be in the same boring routine as well. i tried the fly lady routine to try to get on top of house, but after the day to day washing, cooking, washing up, more washing, cleaning high chair, cleaning baby, more cooking, more washing up ......etc i dont seem to have to time to dust the cobwebs from front porch, clean out my cupboards etc. I don't work like you, but have horses to do every day - their stables are spotless

Well I am giving up. I will clear it all away now because it is irritating me. But if I come back home from work tonight and everything is back I am moving out. Just me on my own. To somewhere nice and clean and peacefull .

Didn't read post properly Your dh sounds like he may need a slight kick up bum!

A kick up the bum A rocket up his bum would be more effective a kick wouldn't bother him.

Perhaps I really should move out? That would show him how much I do do.

LOL I feel like doing that every day!

Perhaps a lovely wkend away somewhere - by yourself of course (or perhaps 6 months )

You have to clear lager cans away BEFORE work and again AFTER work?! Sheesh, how much is he drinking?! That would be my primary concern to be honest.

YAdefinitelyNBU to be fed up of the situation. I'm a SAHM and I know it sometimes irks DH if the place is a bigger mess than it was in the morning but I do at least make an effort. Sometimes it's messier as I've been busy doing something else or sorting out/decluttering - which is the kind of thing which makes mess in the early stages!

No Tigurr I don't clean them away after work, I just surrounded by them, planning on ways of hurting him

I am too knackered after work so I leave it till the morning, only for them all to be back by the evening.

Dh drinks a fair bit but he doesn't have a problem. On a weekend he has a few cans/bottles, but week nights its only one or two after the dd's are in bed. If there is none in the house he will happily go without.

Do you both work is he a SAHD?

I think you need a rota if he can't see ignores jobs that need doing.

The monotomyof baby stuff being put away only to take out again is awful, YANBU.

He works days I do evennings. So according to him it's my job to clean up because I am here during the day

oh dear, I have been married for 22 years this year and have only just got him to the stage where he does stuff without being asked. Beer cans get left out and i leave them for him, I just tidy up around them, he soon gets the message. But he has been off sick for a week and has clesned the oven, cooked every day and changed the bed. Bless him.

Well he cleaned the bedroom, which is apparently why he is excused from putting things away after himself/the dd's. I haven't cleaned a whole room from top to bottom, so am therefore a lazy bint That is because I am too busy cleaning up after you, you eejit!!!!

i think we are all the same person?? its like grounhog day , my husband is slowly getting better tho & since ive had to work most evenings now feeds/baths/beds kids so trying not to get to grumpy when i come home to a bit of mess, but pees me off knowing i have to start the morning again like today!!

groundhog day! yes! I have just started at college, work full time too and used to be shit hot at cleaning and stuff but now I think why should i do it all. So I don't, it was hard at first but now i just ignore it all. DH says "This house is a tip, cos of the kids" lol, he actually means me but wouldn't dare say so.Also sometimes I am too tired after doing housework to have any energy for sex. He becomes quite helpful then, when he thinks he wont get any!! I am supposed to be cleaning now but I am having a break

YANBU at all.
I especially hate fecking bitty toys. You put them away, 2 minutes later they're all over the floor again and you're kicking them everywhere and spraining your ankle on them. Got out a charity bag the other day and started piling them all in. Have had enough of picking them up incessantly.

no ,, its the same at chez hotbot, fwiw i think yuor dh is drinking a lot??? a couple every night and more at weekend is a lot. esp as hes not pulling his weight i would gently suggest not buying any at all thru out the week.

sorry for sticking my beak in

Leave the beer cans out, he will soon realise that you DO do some clearing