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AIBU?

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to take my suspiciously spotty ds to a birthday party tomorrow?

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kettlechip · 16/01/2009 20:07

I know I am but I'm still desperate to do it (probably won't though!)

Ds has had a very spotty face, plus a few on his arms and legs since last Sunday. Nothing at all on his chest and back. No blisters, spots seem to just be darkening and fading away. He's well in every other way and full of beans. No scratching either! We've been under house arrest all week, as chicken pox is sweeping the area and I originally thought it was that so have kept him off preschool all week. Not so sure now.

It's poured down all week and DH is working away and isn't home. Parents and in laws both away on hols. I am going totally stir crazy and would love to get out and see people at the party we're invited to tomorrow! Please tell me if it would be completely unreasonable for us to go, then I can mentally prepare myself for another dull day at home..

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thisisyesterday · 16/01/2009 20:09

well, it doesn't sound like chicken pox at all, IMO.

i would go

compo · 16/01/2009 20:11

have you been to the gp?

brimfull · 16/01/2009 20:11

as he is well in himself and it's clearly not CP I would go as well

mylifemykids · 16/01/2009 20:11

If there aren't blisters then YANBU! Go for it, if the parents drag their children away from your DS then probably best to leave asap!

Sunshinesmith · 16/01/2009 20:14

i would call NHS direct and get their advice. That way you've had some professional advice and don't feel insecure about it.

I think it is important to be cautious as a form of respect to other children, pregnant mums etc..

I would get some advice before going to the party!

DesperateHousewifeToo · 16/01/2009 20:38

I'd go too but phone the host to double check first.

snickersnack · 16/01/2009 20:42

If someone rang me and said "ds has a rash, I've spoken to NHS direct and they say it's fine" I'd welcome them to a party. If they turned up with a spotty ds and no explanation or warning I'd be a bit .

A friend once turned up for coffee with her 10 month old ds - after he and dd (same age) had been happily sucking and sharing toys for an hour he was sick everywhere and she confessed he had a D&V bug. I was less than amused, as we were about to go on holiday.

Leo9 · 16/01/2009 20:45

totally agree with snickers. If a friend turned up to see me and my ds with a child with spots/rash and said "oh yeah I've not got a clue what that is" then I'd feel a bit sick TBH. You need to get it seen by a medic imo just to check out what it is. Matter of courtesy to others if nothing else!

HSMM · 16/01/2009 20:47

Ask your pharmacist, they are great with rashes and spots and save a lot of time

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kettlechip · 16/01/2009 20:48

Handily BIL is a GP, called him for a telephone diagnosis as didn't know if a potentially infectious ds would be welcome in a crowded waiting room at our doctors! BIL's verdict was that it was probably a virus in the pox family but probably not CP.
So now I have no clue if ds is still infectious or not, would feel awful if he passed it on and someone was properly ill, all because I wanted to take the dc's out.

Think I will call NHS direct for advice. Party host is a very good friend, spoke to her earlier and she's happy for me to bring him anyway!

I'm getting very excited about the thought of imminent freedom now!!!

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MegBusset · 16/01/2009 20:56

I would get him to the GP in the morning and get the all-clear first. It does annoy me when people turn up at toddler group with DC with random illnesses that they don't know what they are -- impetigo got spread around one group I go to in this way.

lowrib · 17/01/2009 04:31

You must get the all clear first. There are so many places you can easily get advice - already mentioned are GP / NHS Direct / Chemist.

It's just not fair on others if it does turn out to be infectious, and you'd feel awful if it did turn out to be a nasty and everyone else got it!

It's probably nothing, and the advice will most likely put your mind at rest, as well as the other people at the party.

If you're not sure about the GP's waiting room , explain and ask them if you can wait somewhere else at the surgery, or ring first and ask their advice.

Good luck! Hope you make it to the party

alphabetsoup · 17/01/2009 11:14

Well the hostess might be fine but that says nothing about the other guests...

bubblagirl · 17/01/2009 11:21

i would definitely get it checked first as if not entirely sure there could be someone pregnant there and the risk isnt worth taking

chicken pox can come out different in children as some only get mild others get covered my ds didnt show classic sign of chicken pox and only had few but it was chicken pox

bubblagirl · 17/01/2009 11:22

oh also if its been since last sunday wouldn't be contagious now anyway no longer contagious from when spots dry up and they normally stop coming after 3 days so should be fine anyway

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kettlechip · 17/01/2009 12:52

thanks all! Spots have faded right back today, not scabbed or anything and ds seems fine other than being very mischievious due to being cooped up all week. I can't think it's chicken pox as there are no blisters or scabs at all. Is it possible to get it so mildly you avoid that stage? Have trawled NHS direct and similar - after asking umpteen questions it diagnosed acne! I don't think so, he's only 3..

He is currently running in circles round the kitchen.

At the moment, I think we're going to go. He was exposed to most of the children who'll be there in class last week before his spots came out. Any issues and we'll come straight home.

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Guitargirl · 17/01/2009 12:58

I wouldn't go with NHS direct for a rash, very difficult to describe spots over the phone. GP needs to see it. If it was me I wouldn't go before getting the all clear. Sorry, but you did ask.

compo · 17/01/2009 12:59

I agree with guitargirl
I also would want to know what the rash was, I don't get really why you haven't been to the gp

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kettlechip · 17/01/2009 13:01

Right, have taken close up pics and about to email them to BIL as our own GP is now closed. Will await verdict.

And no worries, guitargirl, I did ask!!

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Guitargirl · 17/01/2009 13:03

And I don't really understand the 'any issues and we'll come straight home'. What issues? Do you mean other parents being ? If that's the case then it's too late once you're there, any (potential) damage has already been done.

belgo · 17/01/2009 13:07

could be molluscum.

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