to expect at least one parent to RSVP to DD's party invites? grumble grumble grumble......

[MadreInglese]

I know this has been done zillions of times before but I need to have a whinge.

DD's having a swimming/sleepover party tonight for her birthday and has invited 5 schoolfriends.

We sent the invites out they day they went back to school (6 Jan) with please RSVP on the bottom and home & mobile numbers and my email address.

Not one fecker has replied. The girls are all telling DD they think can come but a couple are saying they might not sleepover but just come for the swimming and then get picked up. I don't know how many beds I need to lay out (it's borrowed Z-beds and airbeds galore in the spare room) or quite how much food we need to do, or whether we need one or two cars to get to the pool, etc.

Arrgghhh

Why are people so blardy rude? Of course there may be good reason not to RSVP to someone if you have other stuff going on but all 5 of them?

[peeved emoticon]

Feel peeved for you - Had the same thing on DDs birthday in November - it's a bit inconsiderate. Especailly whne you need to organise beds and stuff. Hope she has fun anyway!

how old are they??

I only ask as with my older girls, I don;t get RSVP's anymore, they get told by the invitee's themselves (and yes, slightly irritating but I now do the same as it seems to be the norm).

under 9 tho and I would have at least expected 2 replies by now.

This is remininiscent of DS's last party. I invited 15 children and had replies from only 5. I had to spend the few days before the party running round working out who was coming. It would have taken 2 minutes to send a text/phone/write a note but apparently too much trouble.

I now assume that if I don't get a reply the child is not coming and if they do turn up I will make sure to tell parent in very loud voice that I hadn't realised their DC was coming, must have overlooked their reply etc etc.

Hope your DD enjoys her party.

They are year 6, so 10 & 11 year olds. Just with it being a sleepover as well, I'd want to at least speak to any parents who'd be having my DD overnight, before I dropped her off.

Perhaps replying is not the done thing anymore

ah yes, of course.....tis a sleepover too (sorry, I did read that, just did not sink in).

actually, I would expect replies, (and I do with that regard too up until they are yr8), as I also like to know who they are going to be staying with. especially if I don;t know them and have not met them in the playground etc.

do you know any of the mums of these girls?? could you not ring them.....say it is just making sure about allergies etc, rather than a dig at their slackness in RSVPing.

I vaguely know the parents but we're not friends and I don't have any phone nos.

I've even hung about longer each morning when I've dropped DD off at school this week in the hope of catching one or two of them but no luck (she goes to club straight after school).

Ah well, will just have to wait and see who turns up!