To think that a CONVERSATION is where both of you talk?

[HecateQueenOfGhosts]

Not, as my husband appears to think, where he talks AT me for hours and I get to nod and say hmm, hmm, yes.

He just wants an audience. Bloody annoying. Anyone else suffer?

I am actually considering.....

LOGGING OFF MN! and going to bed, just to get away from tonight's An Audience With MrHecate

DS dad is prone to this (it's one of many reasons why we are not a couple) I let it wash over me as I generally only see him twice a week and he's a brilliant dad.
But I do sympathise, it's very tiresome.

Oh, I thought your post was going to be about the type of conversations that go on in this house:

Me: so what do you think about blah blah?
dh: grunt

Me: Shall we do such and such this weekend?
dh: grunt

Me: Have you noticed that I have stripped naked and am sitting here with a rose between my teeth?
Dh: grunt

etc
etc

My dp thinks that a conversation is whatever he wants to say.

Regardless of whether I happen to be talking at that moment or not!

squeaver thats my DH
one grunt is for coffee
two is tea

It does my head in

DH enjoys reeling off facts at times and I switch off (frankly often I lose the will to live ). When he tells me about his day he over complicates things and I end up pondering other matters (what I could do for tea, the fluff on the floor etc).

When my Granny was alive and my Dad phoned her, he would often walk off and leave her talking. She's be rambling on to herself and wouldn't notice. He was pleased to have made himself a cup of tea during one break in a particular conversation

Yup. Get talked at on a regular basis. I don't think DH notices that I'm not listening. He talked right through the BBC News bit on Gaza that I actually wanted to hear, telling me about Airbus A320s and their 2 engines. And birds.

I could probably do that when I'm on the phone to my Mum MC. Sometimes I go to the loo when I'm speaking to her and leave the phone outside the door.

Ha!

on and on and on and on and on and he neither wants nor needs any contribution from me other than my total devoted attention to his every word!

And he gets huffy with me when I lose interest!!

I don't CAAAAAAAAAAAARE and I don't want to listen to him bang on about the same bloody thing for hours!!!

Anyway, I am escaping now!! night.

yep, mine's the same. Love's the sound of his own voice so much he'll ask me a question, and then talk over me when I'm giving him the answer.

Hang on - have noticed a common theme thanks to hassled's post. Bloody engineer's!! I love it when my dad comes round and DP can get a bit of technical crap out of his system without me having to interrupt and say 'I have no idea what you're talking about' to get him to stop!

He also finds it really odd that I honestly don't care about the numbers of every individual that makes up bands I like, and what other bands they have previously been in, etc.

not numbers, names... urgh!

apparently now I can't stop talking.

I'm going to be quiet now.

Oh yes technical crap! I so can't listen to DH telling me about his day (goes over my head) that my DF had to tell me what DH does at work

MadameCheese, DH has done that too has dad, just put the phone down and gone off did something else, and come back and FIL is still rambing on about something that DH has already told him 3 times that he either a)already knows about because X has told him or b) doesn't care in the slightest about!

DH uses 1000 words when 10 will do. If I say to him 'Do you need to pop into work on Sat?' I get 5 mins of all the work he has on, before he farkin' tells me WHETHER HE NEEDS TO GO INTO WORK ON SAT'. AAAGH! He's worse than the kids I teach. I've taken to interrupting him and re-asking my question (like I do with the kids at school) because, by then, I've lost the will to live and he gets really pissy and says 'I was telling you' and then sulks. Double AAAAGH!

How about monologues in stereo? When I visit a relative and her dh they both talk to me at once while ignoring each other. I like them both and I'm interested in what they have to say, but trying to listen and reply to them both leaves me exhausted in no time.

My mum does that thing where she gets annoyed with you for not knowing in advance what she's talking obout.

'Oh we saw a super film last night. You know, that one? Oh you do know it. That one, with the guy in it from that thing? He was in that other thing with that woman. Oh you do know it. You DO!'

She actually can't understand why people can't follow this, and considers herself entitled to be annoyed. She's always been like this so senior moments no excuse.

... and my DP is a man of very few words whilst I rarely switch my gob off. I remember always trying to think of subjects to get him talking when we first met, and once in a moment of utter desperation on a car journey said to him 'What's your favourite vitamin?'

Mine is vitamin C by the way.

Favourite vitamin? hahahahaha

That really is desperate!

What is his favourite vitamin then?

Oh he sat on the fence and wouldn't commit to one over the other.

Ten years in I've honed his opinionating skills and I'm sure if I asked him now he'd say...milk?

Vitamin milk? Pah...

At least he's finally stopped saying 'each to their own', which to my mind is an arrestable offence

LOL MorrisZapp! Said Granny and Great Aunt were talking "at" each other at the same time, we just left them to it!