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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be annoyed at the teenage girls on ds's school bus who were trying to kiss the boys including 9 year old ds?

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:02

Then he got into trouble for trying to get away from them. It was his first time on a bus without me and didn't know what to do so he ran down the bus (I did talk to him about the safety aspect when he told me) and hid. He shouldn't have to do this though right? Should I contact the girls school tomorrow and complain? He's only 9 and they were all 14+ I'm so annoyed. AIBU?

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compo · 14/01/2009 21:04

sounds pretty harmless to me
tell him just to laugh it off

DisenchantedPlusBump · 14/01/2009 21:06

wouldnt be harmless if it were 14++ BOYS trying to iss 9 year old girls though.

I would mae a complaint to the school in all honesty.

TheInvisibleManDidIt · 14/01/2009 21:07

Poor wee man. Is he ok now? My ds1 will be 9 next month and that would have really upset him.

I would be furious if I were you!

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:08

ds is at the age when he hates girls! It must have been a horrible experience for him (and the other boys).

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:08

I am very angry!

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noonki · 14/01/2009 21:09

depends - where they being silly and blowing kisses... or full on kisses, were they being intimidating or just playing?

Very unfortuate it was his first day

garciasangria · 14/01/2009 21:10

It was probably just a laugh, but I can see why you're annoyed, I would be too tbh.

nametaken · 14/01/2009 21:11

At least she was just trying to kiss him, not hit him.

It's just a couple of girls having a giggle, don't complain you'll make it worse.

Talk to your son about coping strategies, or give him some funny quips to retort with. I dunno, if she says "give us a kiss then darling", he could say "no thanks, i'd rather kiss my grannys false teeth" or something daft like that.

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:12

I'm not sure on the kisses. I'll ask ds in the morning. They were not blowing them though. He's only small so doesn't look like a 9 year old, more like a 7 year old. Very bad IMO.

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:13

I get the impression they were not asked nametaken. I have told him to sit as near to the driver as he can. I hope this helps him.

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loobeylou · 14/01/2009 21:14

Compo, it is NOT harmless! Would it be OK if the genders were reversed, of course not!

Totally unacceptable and is one of the reasons mine do not use school bus, older kids from secondary school "misbehaving", swearing, throwing things etc.

That is NOT funny and they need a serious talking to from their headteacher. It is sexual harrassment plain and simple. One would not tolerate it from a colleague on the work shuttle bus, for example.

paolosgirl · 14/01/2009 21:16

Nope, not funny at all. If it was 14+ old boys trying to kiss primary school aged girls I bet it wouldn't be quite so funny. I'd complain to the school, definitely. They girls will never know who it was that raised the concern, and will hopefully think twice in future about intimidating smaller, younger children.

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:17

Thankyou. I'll give them a call tomorrow or try emailing.

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pointydog · 14/01/2009 21:26

I'd speak to my child about how to deal with it and keep an eye on it. This sort of nonsense is bound to happen at som epoint.

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:31

Yes, but he's only 9 and they were alot older. If a teenage boy were to try to kiss a 9 year old girl then this would be wrong too.

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pointydog · 14/01/2009 21:35

Yes. I'm just saying that I would expect some serious carry-ons on teh bus from time to time and my first step would be to talk to my dc, help them to deal with it but keep an eye on it.

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:36

I've done that but I don't think these young 'ladies' should get away scott free when ds was told off for trying to get away from them.

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paolosgirl · 14/01/2009 21:39

No, they absolutely shouldn't get away with it. Help him deal with it if you feel he's able to stand up to them - but it takes a lot of courage and confidence for a 9 year old to stand up to a group of much older kids, and not all children are able to do that. I know mine wouldn't, and quite frankly I wouldn't expect them to - they are not the ones in the wrong.

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:40

I've told him to sit near the driver so will see how it goes tomorrow. Little tramps! Their parents will be upset when they end up pregnant at 16, all the years of school fees wasted!

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pointydog · 14/01/2009 21:44

That's an over-reaction

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:48

Yes but I'm angry!

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Lauriefairycake · 14/01/2009 21:51

Tramps?

Bit harsh, they're still only kids. Just cos they're 14 doesn't mean they know very much.

To them it's messing about, not sexual, just stupidity.

I think the "they will get pregnant at 16" infers you think it was sexual. It's more likely to be just messing about stupidly.

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scrooged · 14/01/2009 21:55

Maybe. I'm still pissed though.

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MegaPhone · 14/01/2009 21:57

I would be annoyed. If it was teenage boys trying to kiss 9 year old girls they'd be branded perverts and allsorts.

Lauriefairycake · 14/01/2009 21:57

You're allowed to be - I mean it happened on the first day you left him.