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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to consider giving the DDs a day off on friday because they will be tired and i really don't want to have to get up early and fight with them.

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DisasterArea · 14/01/2009 20:02

we're off to the theatre thursday eve. will be back very late (about 1am-ish)
would it be shockingly lax to consider not getting up friday morning?
after all a theatre trip will be educational.

OP posts:

Sparkletastic · 14/01/2009 20:26

He is very erm 'buff' ...

Could they go in at lunchtime and do half a day or are you making up an elaborate lie about Denghi Fever or somesuch?

nametaken · 14/01/2009 20:27

Oh just take them in an hour later and say you all overslept.

Ashantai · 14/01/2009 20:32

Who the bleedin hell is Carlos anyway?

echt · 14/01/2009 20:47

They should be in school the next day, just make it clear beforehand that you'll be expecting this. At 10 and 12 they're not babies. If you don't you'll be setting a precedent that will come back to bite you; how would you then distinguish between worthy theatre-induced tiredness and out with the mates pissed up in the park variety?
The educational aspect doesn't really wash as you've already said you're doing this to spare yourself grief.

Yes, I'm a teacher and lost count of the number of times this excuse was trotted out.

Enjoy the night out and back to work the next day.

Original poster

DisasterArea · 14/01/2009 20:51

but. but. but.
CARLOS!! you don't really understand the full importance do you?

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Belgianchocolates · 14/01/2009 20:56

I'd say send them to school. When they're older their boss wont take a night out as an excuse for not coming into work either. It's a part of life and growing up.
Oh and as for your own lie in, I think you'd get more rest by taking them in and then going back to bed in peace and quiet yourself! That's what I'd do!

ladymariner · 14/01/2009 20:56

Agree with georgiemama, they do need to go to school, but can see where you're coming from.

juuule · 14/01/2009 20:58

"how would you then distinguish between worthy theatre-induced tiredness and out with the mates pissed up in the park variety?
"

You are joking.
How do you distinguish between them?
You tell them the difference.

abbierhodes · 14/01/2009 21:01

Keep them at home!! As an adult, you would book the day off following an important evening event, because you have that choice. If you are the kind of parent who cares enough to be posting on an internet forum for advice regarding one day off, then I guarantee that you are not about to produce kids who will become lazy and unmotivated, lacking responsibility because of this one incident!

echt · 14/01/2009 21:27

Juuule - the point I was implying - not clearly enough, I can see, is that the OP is potentially setting up a situation where an enjoyable activity is an excuse for not working.

For a good number of people, getting pissed in the park is of far more value than going to the theatre so a day off work would be in order. Teenagers love to point out logical inconsistencies in their parents' behaviour. I might not like the idea of my children being too tired to go to school because of being out with their mates, but in no way could I dignify being out at the theatre as somehow better, more worthy of a day off.

Abbierhodes - as a teacher I attend important evening events several times a year, they're called parents' evenings, and no, I can't book a day afterwards. I would imagine there a lot of jobs where this kind of thing happens.

Lauriefairycake · 14/01/2009 21:30

School - one day of being a bit tired before a weekend is not going to kill them.

Hope you have a lovely time

LadyMuck · 14/01/2009 21:32

Do parents evenings go on until 1am these days? I struggle to get appointments for after 8pm.

Hulababy · 14/01/2009 21:33

I would send them to school. Mabe warn their teachers in advance they may be a bit tired.

I am taking DD to a Take That concert in the summer. She'll be 7. It is on a Sunday night. She'll be going to school the next day; I'll be going to work. Yes, it will be a very late night on a school day but it is very much a one off. She can have an early night on Monday instead. I am hoping she will sleep in the car too.

echt · 14/01/2009 21:40

No, ladymuck, but they do go on after a full day's work. and they are work.

abbierhodes · 14/01/2009 21:40

Echt, I am a teacher too, and I've never been home later than 10 from a parents' evening.
I can't book a day off either, personally, but most people can.

ElizabethanFilth · 14/01/2009 21:48

Yes, keep them off, so they can pretend to be knackered for ooh, about an hour after school starts then drive you mad all day.

Don't be daft. 1am is fine, let them sleep as late as possible, make sure everything is ready so it takes them 5 minutes to get out of bed, shove on some clothes, grab some breakfast and straight to school.

If you want them to stay off, then just talk to the teacher, sometimes teachers will be fine with it, the teacher is the one who knows how important that lesson is.

I've had Dd off school or in late (she is only just 8 though) for all manner of things, and always had the teacher's support in it. I have only kept her off for what is necessary though, so in this case, I'd take her in at first break if she was really that tired, not keep her off the whole day.

cory · 14/01/2009 21:52

They're not babies, I'd take them but send them to school the day after.

sarah293 · 15/01/2009 08:41

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mm22bys · 15/01/2009 09:04

See how they are on the day.

They are not babies, and I agree that you should have considered this before booking it on a "school" night.

morningpaper · 15/01/2009 09:09

they might be up and wide awake at 6.30

llareggub · 15/01/2009 09:14

Is it you wanting to lie in or a genuine worry that your little darlings might be a little tired at school?

Send them. It will be good practice for 6th form and hangovers.

mumof2rugrats · 15/01/2009 10:03

if your school has a problem with you keeping them off send them in and let them deal with them while there over tied lol ..

DaphneMoon · 15/01/2009 10:21

Can't see why a 10 or 12 year old could not cope with a late night like 1am. If we were talking about a 5 or 6 year old that would be different. Yes they will be tired but they won't be falling asleep at their desks. They will sleep very well that night. I would send them.

zanz1bar · 15/01/2009 10:27

private or state school?

if private just think how much it is costing you to keep them off school.

if state just think how much it costs us?

mumeeee · 15/01/2009 15:16

I would send them in. a 10 and 12 year old will be able to cope with one late night.

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