To call DH a w**ker

[DyingForAFag]

I am on Day 2 of quitting fags and I have specifically asked him to try extra hard not to piss me off!!

Anyway I am also quite overweight (about 4 stone)after 3 DCs and I have resolved that I will lose all that as well in the 1st half of this year. Decided to deal with the smoking first as I think it will be easier to exercise if I stop as they do make me feel breathless. I will start my full on diet next week as after 7 days of not smoking I hope the cravings will have subsided!!

Well as I find the evenings v. hard with not smoking (when DCs in bed I normally sit in the conservatory with the outside door open) to smoke so I have just HAD to have a doorstep sarnie to take my mind off it but he has just had a go at me, saying I should not be eating now as I want to lose weight . I can't do it all at once - not smoking and eating.

Bloody twunt - he made me shout at him and am now all wound up and desperate for a fag!!

Deep breaths! You are doing brilliantly. Well done. Ignore silly man.

He really needs to appreciate how tough it is giving up cigarettes. One thing at a time and I think it's too soon to start a diet in 7 days.

For Gods sake, go easier on yourself, you're given up the most difficult addiction known to man (woman).

Lots of luck with giving up

Put the five pounds you have saved yourself today in a pot! Make a list of why you want to loose weight and give up smoking. Put the sign up somewhere.
As for hubby....He is there to be shouted at!! Shout away!

Thanks both - it really is a hard habit to break.

I dare not even go into the conservatory at the moment as I might get emotional as I associate going in there with having a cig!!

Does'nt help that DH is like a bloody robot and has no addictions at all - not even to chocolate - I keep telling him he's not human!!

Try one of those electric cigarettes!! My colleague has gone from 30 a day to 3 virtually overnight using one. They don't smell, don't contain all those nasty chemicals and you can 'smoke' 'em anywhere. Much cheaper than the real thing too. Water vapour with nicotine apparently. Tried it and it's pretty good.

Mine's at the sorting office waiting for me to collect tomorrow . Google it - loads of places sell them.

And no YANBU - he is a wanker!

Techno - that's great - hadnt heard of electric ones just the inhalators. Found the YouTube video of the electric one and they look so realistic - am def going to order one!!

Well done on giving up! I'm going to stop soon too (again!).

Have you read Allan Carr's book? It really does help. (But then again, don't listen to me who stops for six months and starts again x 6)

And no, YANBU

I hadn't either till she brough hers in. I was amazed, I want to stop and have been trying to stop for ages but have no willpower and I'll be honest, I LIKE SMOKING!

I've ordered one from espro.co.uk cos it's the same size as an ordinary fag. My mate's is quite a bit bigger than a fag but works great. It depends what you want. I've paid £40 for the starter kit and another £6 for extra nicotine cartridges that are the equivalent of over 100 fags.

My DP stopped 4 years ago and hates it now so I know how you feel. He doesn't think my new pretend fag will make any difference but I'm quite excited and positive about it.

Good luck DFaF. Hope you do it! I'll post when it comes to let you know how I get on.

YANBU to do one thing at a time.

YANBU to be angry at him either - but you might find you are being silly. The last thing you want or need right now is someone to be angry with because that will give you just the excuse you need to light up and undo all your good work.

He didn't "make" you shout at him - the nicotine disappearing from your body did that.

Remember - you are stopping smoking for you, for a whole range of good reasons. By the same token, only you can "make" you smoke (unless your husband escalates his behaviour to pinning you down and putting lighted cigarettes in your mouth!)

Good luck with it - it's so worth it once you're out the other side, and that takes next to no time in the grand scheme of things.

FWIW I'm an Allen Carr graduate - 40 Marlboro Reds a day in my prime!

I wish Allen Carr had worked for me. I just got cross at him. I only tried the book tho, not actual sessions.

Tried hypnotherapy too. I just used to come home afterwards, fall asleep on the sofa as she'd 'relaxed' me and wake up and light a fag. She asked me what my most hated taste was, 'anchovies' said I. Unfortunately as I listened to the tape she had very kindly made for me - laying on the bed, in the dark, fully relaxed - when I heard her say 'the next cigarette you light will taste only of anchovies' it made me burst out laughing and sit up. Didn't work obviously.

But I will do it and DyingForAFag will do it too. We all just have to find the right way for us and the right time. You've got to stop for you and not just because someone else wants you to.

You ve got my sympathy.

Gave up smoking few years ago and wanted to eat all the time.

Try to have some yummy fruits around so you can snack. Spend the money you would spend on fags, to buy lovely exotic fruits. Sounds funny but it worked for me.

Drink lots and lots of water
All the best luck

Dyingforafag, not unreasonable to call your husband a wanker - mostly they are.

Anyway, do you know that you can go to your doctor for help in quitting? He/she can help you put a plan together and can give you various products to help you quit. I think if you rely totally on willpower its extremely hard because physiologically you body is now working against you. The products help with a few of the symptoms. Good luck, you are doing a brilliant thing for your health. And I think its an excellent idea to do one thing at a time otherwise you will get overwhelmed.